Most of the books suck and aren't worth reading. The best perspective is this book called "How Children Succeed". Basically focus on the big things -- teach grit, curiosity, self-control, etc. That took alot of the stress out of everything and allowed me to focus on what mattered. The "Conscious Parent" was a good one too -- again focus on the everyday and don't be a helicopter parent is the message there. Lastly as more of a straight up playbook we read one of those French parenting books, "Bringing up Bebe" -- totally helped with toddler eating. What you expect when you're expecting -- throw it in the garbage.