The Lost History of Gay Adult Adoption(nytimes.com)
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The Lost History of Gay Adult Adoption
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/19/magazine/the-lost-history-of-gay-adult-adoption.html?mod=e2this&_r=0
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I'm sure that in legal circles, there are a whole host of similar "law hacking" examples. This seems like a particular ingenious approach. I'd be interested to learn about other circumstances where laws are creatively misused to achieve noble ends. (The examples where the law is misused for nefarious ends are too numerous to mention).
This reminds me of the tiny house movement that avoids building regulations w.r.t. minimize size and grid hookup by putting wheels on their semi-permanent houses.
It's not exactly a tiny house movement invention, the Roma have been doing this for a very long time. There are also tax advantages to having wheels attached to your house, in plenty of places that means you're not paying property tax for the dwelling.
> It's not exactly a tiny house movement invention, the Roma have been doing this for a very long time.
For very different reasons, and theirs aren't semi-permanent.
> in plenty of places that means you're not paying property tax for the dwelling.
Then again in plenty of places (at least in western europe) you must have a permanent residence, so a mobile dwelling (whether an RV or a boat) can only be a secondary residence.
For very different reasons, and theirs aren't semi-permanent.
> in plenty of places that means you're not paying property tax for the dwelling.
Then again in plenty of places (at least in western europe) you must have a permanent residence, so a mobile dwelling (whether an RV or a boat) can only be a secondary residence.
Also related to buildings, but in this case to avoid taxation - in the UK there was a "window tax", designed to be a progressive tax (the wealthier you are, the bigger your house, the more windows you have, the more tax you pay). To pay less tax, lots of people bricked up some of their windows so that the tax would go down without living in a smaller building. Now days that tax has been replaced in the UK by council tax, which is still progressive but based on house valuations rather than counting windows. You can still see some remnants of the tax avoidance, though, such as http://knowledgeoflondon.com/images/windowtax.jpg
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Of course, these are ends that are only now being seen as noble instead of nefarious. It was necessary because same-sex relationships were viewed as deviant and sinister for so long.
What's an interesting question is why this was so widely accepted and tolerated by judges/social workers, in an era where same-sex relationships were otherwise treated so punitively.
What's an interesting question is why this was so widely accepted and tolerated by judges/social workers, in an era where same-sex relationships were otherwise treated so punitively.
The GPL in particular, and Copyleft in general, have been described as "viral" licenses because of the way they spread and perpetuate themselves.
This happened near where I live.
A gay couple did an adoption but now they're father and son so it's not legal for them to marry.
http://www.post-gazette.com/local/north/2015/10/09/Fox-Chape...
http://www.post-gazette.com/local/north/2015/10/09/Fox-Chape...
I was going to mention adoption dissolution (which has been used by other couples in the same situation: http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2015/05/28/newser/...) but the article covers it:
> when the couple petitioned Allegheny County Judge Lawrence O’Toole to dissolve the adoption this summer, he ruled the state’s adoption law didn’t allow him to do so.
That's just sad, and they only just went the adoption route 2 years before same-sex marriage was legalised.
> when the couple petitioned Allegheny County Judge Lawrence O’Toole to dissolve the adoption this summer, he ruled the state’s adoption law didn’t allow him to do so.
That's just sad, and they only just went the adoption route 2 years before same-sex marriage was legalised.
This makes very clear the practical benefits of same-sex marriage and the real impact it has on people's lives.
Whenever I encounter people being dismissive of same-sex marriage because it's just symbolic/a distraction/etc., these are the kind of examples I give to show how wrong they are.
Whenever I encounter people being dismissive of same-sex marriage because it's just symbolic/a distraction/etc., these are the kind of examples I give to show how wrong they are.
I imagine this would be quite the headtrip for a lot of people to deal with:
Adult adoption by gays and lesbians has only been quietly discussed, both in or outside the gay community, for fairly obvious reasons; there isn’t an easy way to tell your friends and family that the man or woman with whom you share a bed is, legally, your son or father, or your daughter or mother.
I am glad we legalized gay marriage.
Adult adoption by gays and lesbians has only been quietly discussed, both in or outside the gay community, for fairly obvious reasons; there isn’t an easy way to tell your friends and family that the man or woman with whom you share a bed is, legally, your son or father, or your daughter or mother.
I am glad we legalized gay marriage.
The article doesn't mention adult adoption in Japan at all, which is strange. Japanese adult adoption (a centuries long-standing practice) was covered in the US news and HN in the past year.
That's different though, that's done in order to "continue" the family line when there is no male heir to inherit a going concern, so while very interesting in its own way it's to address a different social pressure.
Still, yes, very interesting.
Still, yes, very interesting.
The article is about LGBT adoptions for romantic purposes, as a legal replacement to unavailable legal unions. Japanese "son-in-law adoption" (mukoyōshi) is a question of business capability and name (brand) preservation, not a way to bypass a lack of legal protection in a romantic pairing.
Why would it? Japanese adult adoption isn't romantic in nature.
Not always, it's sometimes used by gay partners in Japan as an alternative to marriage since they cannot legally marry. It's exactly the same situation as the one described in this article.
And like the article, it's not an ideal solution.
And like the article, it's not an ideal solution.
> Not always, it's sometimes used by gay partners in Japan as an alternative to marriage since they cannot legally marry.
True but GP is talking about "a centuries long-standing practice".
True but GP is talking about "a centuries long-standing practice".
Not that long ago people tried to argue that marriage equality wasn't needed to protect basic rights of individuals involved. They just needed to use contracts/adoption/etc.
This is a great article to remind us how bogus that argument was.
This is a great article to remind us how bogus that argument was.
> This is a great article to remind us how bogus that argument was.
I'm not sure what you mean. At no point does it indicate that the adoption tactic ever failed; in fact, the article seems to be at pains to show that adoption routinely and reliably secured most or all of the rights that marriage would have, and swapping adoption for marriage now is little more than a change of paperwork. Based on this article, you would have to say that marriage equality wasn't needed to secure the basic rights like inheritance, hospital visitation, etc.
I'm not sure what you mean. At no point does it indicate that the adoption tactic ever failed; in fact, the article seems to be at pains to show that adoption routinely and reliably secured most or all of the rights that marriage would have, and swapping adoption for marriage now is little more than a change of paperwork. Based on this article, you would have to say that marriage equality wasn't needed to secure the basic rights like inheritance, hospital visitation, etc.
Military members' adult children receive no benefits. Consequently, a US military member who used this method may have secured certain visitation and inheritance rights, but would not have qualified their spouse for access to the base, base hospital, insurance, and many other things.
Hell, no one using this method would be able to cover their adult partner (over age 26, now, variously 18 or 21 in the past) under company health insurance.
They wouldn't have qualified for any tax benefits of marriage (or penalties, for that matter).
Combining property in joint accounts or joint ownership was slightly easier, but still not as straightforward as it is for married couples.
> At no point does it indicate that the adoption tactic ever failed
The adoption technique did not fail in that it achieved what it intended to achieve (primarily the basic legal rights and access of family members). But it did not achieve a marriage substitute, as it did not give them access to everything that marriage entailed.
> ; in fact, the article seems to be at pains to show that adoption routinely and reliably secured most or all of the rights that marriage would have, and swapping adoption for marriage now is little more than a change of paperwork.
It secured some of the rights, it did not secure all or anywhere near most of them.
Hell, no one using this method would be able to cover their adult partner (over age 26, now, variously 18 or 21 in the past) under company health insurance.
They wouldn't have qualified for any tax benefits of marriage (or penalties, for that matter).
Combining property in joint accounts or joint ownership was slightly easier, but still not as straightforward as it is for married couples.
> At no point does it indicate that the adoption tactic ever failed
The adoption technique did not fail in that it achieved what it intended to achieve (primarily the basic legal rights and access of family members). But it did not achieve a marriage substitute, as it did not give them access to everything that marriage entailed.
> ; in fact, the article seems to be at pains to show that adoption routinely and reliably secured most or all of the rights that marriage would have, and swapping adoption for marriage now is little more than a change of paperwork.
It secured some of the rights, it did not secure all or anywhere near most of them.
The article details the gymnastics required, required only of gay couples, to approximate those rights.
And after all the gymnastics, they and only they had to endure, they ended up with approximation of what heterosexuals were able to accomplish with a conversation at a Justice of the Peace.
The article details the patchwork quilt of rights, the limits, the variation among States, that resulted from this sort of "solution."
It only seems successful to those who didn't need to do it.
And after all the gymnastics, they and only they had to endure, they ended up with approximation of what heterosexuals were able to accomplish with a conversation at a Justice of the Peace.
The article details the patchwork quilt of rights, the limits, the variation among States, that resulted from this sort of "solution."
It only seems successful to those who didn't need to do it.
>they and only they had to endure
Lets not pretend that gay marriage is the last marriage equality that will have to be fought for, even if the ones to come seem as crazy to use as gay marriage seemed to many of those who fought for interracial marriage.
Lets not pretend that gay marriage is the last marriage equality that will have to be fought for, even if the ones to come seem as crazy to use as gay marriage seemed to many of those who fought for interracial marriage.
Three person marriage is likely next.
It avoids incest taboos and the groundwork has already been done.
It avoids incest taboos and the groundwork has already been done.
I think this is wrong. As Dan Savage pointed out, heterosexuals had ALREADY changed marriage long before the gays came along. Forgive the bluntness, but marriage used to basically be a property transaction where a woman was transferred from her family to her husband. Long ago, though, marriage in the US has legally been viewed as a merge of equals. In fact, ALL states AFAIK had already gotten rid of parts of their laws where husbands had different rights/responsibilities from wives. Allowing gay marriage was just replacing husband or wife with "spouse" in any legal document.
With 3 party marriage, the vast majority of laws related to financial transactions would fundamentally have to change. Some simple examples 1. Survivor benefits: If someone is in a >2 person marriage, does that mean all of their spouses can continue to collect survivor benefits until the last person dies? 2. Tax-free inheritance: Similar to the above, but does a >2 person marriage mean everyone gets tax free inheritance? 3. Healthcare benefits: Could you put 5 spouses on one employee-sponsored health plan? 4. Tax laws: Tax laws would need a total rewrite because all brackets/amounts just support a single person or a 2-person marriage.
>2 person marriage has huge legal and financial implications that gay marriage did not.
With 3 party marriage, the vast majority of laws related to financial transactions would fundamentally have to change. Some simple examples 1. Survivor benefits: If someone is in a >2 person marriage, does that mean all of their spouses can continue to collect survivor benefits until the last person dies? 2. Tax-free inheritance: Similar to the above, but does a >2 person marriage mean everyone gets tax free inheritance? 3. Healthcare benefits: Could you put 5 spouses on one employee-sponsored health plan? 4. Tax laws: Tax laws would need a total rewrite because all brackets/amounts just support a single person or a 2-person marriage.
>2 person marriage has huge legal and financial implications that gay marriage did not.
Perhaps simpler would be allowing one person to be in multiple 2 person marriages at once. Even if one of these must be set as the primary, for which all tax benefits, etc. apply to. So while a 3 person marriage would leave one person with no primary, a 4 person marriage would really be 6 marriages, only 2 of which are primary and which function mostly the same. Any special cases like power of attorney could work through the primary marriage unless a legal document was drafted that changed the functionality.
I'm sure a think tank can form a much better option than the one I crafted in under 5 minutes.
I'm sure a think tank can form a much better option than the one I crafted in under 5 minutes.
1. Survivor benefits: If someone is in a >2 person marriage, does that mean all of their spouses can continue to collect survivor benefits until the last person dies?
Survivor benefits continue as long as there is a surviving spouse. It doesn't matter if there are 1 or 3.
2. Tax-free inheritance: Similar to the above, but does a >2 person marriage mean everyone gets tax free inheritance?
Every surviving participant in the marriage inherits tax free. Just like now.
3. Healthcare benefits: Could you put 5 spouses on one employee-sponsored health plan?
Yes.
4. Tax laws: Tax laws would need a total rewrite because all brackets/amounts just support a single person or a 2-person marriage.
Married or Single are the current choices. That wouldn't be any different. It would actually incentivize multiple person marriage.
Survivor benefits continue as long as there is a surviving spouse. It doesn't matter if there are 1 or 3.
2. Tax-free inheritance: Similar to the above, but does a >2 person marriage mean everyone gets tax free inheritance?
Every surviving participant in the marriage inherits tax free. Just like now.
3. Healthcare benefits: Could you put 5 spouses on one employee-sponsored health plan?
Yes.
4. Tax laws: Tax laws would need a total rewrite because all brackets/amounts just support a single person or a 2-person marriage.
Married or Single are the current choices. That wouldn't be any different. It would actually incentivize multiple person marriage.
And your answers are fundamentally why >2 person marriage isn't coming anytime soon. All of these solutions are basically break the entire slew of existing financial setups around marriage. Do you think a company would be willing to put 5 married people on the same spousal health plan? Do you think Social Security is going to be OK with 1 person's benefits potentially outliving them for decades as they carry on to multiple spouses?
>2 person marriage is fundamentally different from existing marriage laws in a way gay marriage is not.
>2 person marriage is fundamentally different from existing marriage laws in a way gay marriage is not.
> Three person marriage is likely next.
> It avoids incest taboos and the groundwork has already been done.
It actually hasn't; any two-party marriage uses the same infrastructure without problems, the differences are simply at the front door.
Multiparty marriages need ground up redesign of the rights and privileges, which are all based on exclusive dyadic relationships.
There's quite usable outlines of how the legal infrastructure might support many aspects of multiparty marriages (especially in terms of things like dissolution) in, e.g., the law of business partnerships, but the context and details of the rights and privileges tied to marriage are sufficiently different that there is a lot of work to do define even what a multiparty marriage would mean legally.
Its not a simple equality step that can be addressed largely at the front door like interracial or even same-sex marriage.
> It avoids incest taboos and the groundwork has already been done.
It actually hasn't; any two-party marriage uses the same infrastructure without problems, the differences are simply at the front door.
Multiparty marriages need ground up redesign of the rights and privileges, which are all based on exclusive dyadic relationships.
There's quite usable outlines of how the legal infrastructure might support many aspects of multiparty marriages (especially in terms of things like dissolution) in, e.g., the law of business partnerships, but the context and details of the rights and privileges tied to marriage are sufficiently different that there is a lot of work to do define even what a multiparty marriage would mean legally.
Its not a simple equality step that can be addressed largely at the front door like interracial or even same-sex marriage.
"Equitable division of marital assets and liabilities."
This doesn't require anything special.
Legalizing same-sex marriage required changes on license forms, this will too.
This doesn't require anything special.
Legalizing same-sex marriage required changes on license forms, this will too.
The fundamental change (ignoring issues with the religious) for same-sex marriage really was just the genders specified/described in most legislation and regulations related to marital rights, privileges, obligations.
For multi-party marriage one major issue will be based on this assumption: members can enter into and leave a marriage without dissolving the rest of the union. If 4 people are married and wish to add a fifth, and later one wants to leave, this should be feasible. How will the various assets be combined and removed from the other parties when people enter into and leave this plural marriage?
It's not as straightforward as the current two-person marriage. (Ha! It's not clean for two-party marriages either.) It'd be interesting to see, but it'll require a bit more structure to be set up, or at least more deliberation to ensure that it's not a complete clusterfuck the first time someone wants to divorce their two wives and husband (see also the issue with civil unions before same sex marriage was legalized and the issues faced when trying to dissolve those).
For multi-party marriage one major issue will be based on this assumption: members can enter into and leave a marriage without dissolving the rest of the union. If 4 people are married and wish to add a fifth, and later one wants to leave, this should be feasible. How will the various assets be combined and removed from the other parties when people enter into and leave this plural marriage?
It's not as straightforward as the current two-person marriage. (Ha! It's not clean for two-party marriages either.) It'd be interesting to see, but it'll require a bit more structure to be set up, or at least more deliberation to ensure that it's not a complete clusterfuck the first time someone wants to divorce their two wives and husband (see also the issue with civil unions before same sex marriage was legalized and the issues faced when trying to dissolve those).
> "Equitable division of marital assets and liabilities."
> This doesn't require anything special.
Right, and how to mechanically achieve this in multiparty relationships on dissolution is what I referred to as having a particularly good model in partnership law, because its done there a lot, and the wrinkles in how it works out have been pretty heavily hammered on over several centuries.
The non-dissolution aspects of marital rights and privileges and how they would apply to multiparty relations (and whether existing explicit rules and legal presumptions built on the premise of a dyadic relationship work, or even make any sense, in multiparty relationships needs to be considered, area by area; for some aspects of this, again, partnership law probably has good models to follow as to how things might be generalized.)
E.g., there's lots of things where spouses have either decisive rights or are necessarily included parties that must each consent, written based on the dyadic nature of existing marriage structure. Whether these generalize to every spouse having the same powers and requirements as a single spouse does now, or whether those powers require a majority of the members of the multiparty relationship, or some other rule in a multiparty case probably needs separate analysis for each of the areas.
> This doesn't require anything special.
Right, and how to mechanically achieve this in multiparty relationships on dissolution is what I referred to as having a particularly good model in partnership law, because its done there a lot, and the wrinkles in how it works out have been pretty heavily hammered on over several centuries.
The non-dissolution aspects of marital rights and privileges and how they would apply to multiparty relations (and whether existing explicit rules and legal presumptions built on the premise of a dyadic relationship work, or even make any sense, in multiparty relationships needs to be considered, area by area; for some aspects of this, again, partnership law probably has good models to follow as to how things might be generalized.)
E.g., there's lots of things where spouses have either decisive rights or are necessarily included parties that must each consent, written based on the dyadic nature of existing marriage structure. Whether these generalize to every spouse having the same powers and requirements as a single spouse does now, or whether those powers require a majority of the members of the multiparty relationship, or some other rule in a multiparty case probably needs separate analysis for each of the areas.
something like 4% of americans are gay. what percent of americans are clamoring for legalization of poly marriage?
Something similar could've been said about both interracial and same-sex marriage.
If the relationship type (interracial, same-sex, poly) is considered in some manner deviant or otherwise unacceptable, the number of people openly engaging in it will be small. As race relations in the US improved, as attitudes on same-sex relationships improved, the number of people openly engaged in these relationship types increased.
As poly relationships become more acceptable, more people will admit to being in them. Then we can examine what percentage is impacted by not being able to marry.
If the relationship type (interracial, same-sex, poly) is considered in some manner deviant or otherwise unacceptable, the number of people openly engaging in it will be small. As race relations in the US improved, as attitudes on same-sex relationships improved, the number of people openly engaged in these relationship types increased.
As poly relationships become more acceptable, more people will admit to being in them. Then we can examine what percentage is impacted by not being able to marry.
The funny thing about human rights is that one can never justifying denying them because the minority who wants them is too small to count as important.
Indeed, the number of people being tortured at Guantanamo were a tiny, tiny portion of the global population - doesn't mean they should have been subjected to that, regardless of what they were accused of.
> The article details the gymnastics required, required only of gay couples, to approximate those rights.
Now you are moving goalposts. First you were all 'look at how total a failure this is and how this is proof marriage is the only possible option'; when I point out that it worked out just fine for all the people who did it, now you're backpedaling to complaining about 'gymnastics'.
And as gymnastics go, having a parent fill out a form, enduring a rubberstamp social worker visit, and filling out some more paperwork is hardly an Olympic-level feat; especially when one consider what this gets you (a clever legal hack to secure a very large set of legal rights that would be unobtainable otherwise for 40 years or more, going by the mentioned years). The surprising thing is that it wasn't more common.
> The article details the patchwork quilt of rights, the limits, the variation among States, that resulted from this sort of "solution."
The article details how this worked out quite well for them. I don't see much of a 'patchwork' or discussion of the limits, or how the variation was a serious problem. (If you read OP, the biggest problem described seemed to be a hypothetical legal conundrum about some incest laws that the lawyers were still arguing between themselves about.)
Now you are moving goalposts. First you were all 'look at how total a failure this is and how this is proof marriage is the only possible option'; when I point out that it worked out just fine for all the people who did it, now you're backpedaling to complaining about 'gymnastics'.
And as gymnastics go, having a parent fill out a form, enduring a rubberstamp social worker visit, and filling out some more paperwork is hardly an Olympic-level feat; especially when one consider what this gets you (a clever legal hack to secure a very large set of legal rights that would be unobtainable otherwise for 40 years or more, going by the mentioned years). The surprising thing is that it wasn't more common.
> The article details the patchwork quilt of rights, the limits, the variation among States, that resulted from this sort of "solution."
The article details how this worked out quite well for them. I don't see much of a 'patchwork' or discussion of the limits, or how the variation was a serious problem. (If you read OP, the biggest problem described seemed to be a hypothetical legal conundrum about some incest laws that the lawyers were still arguing between themselves about.)
I've seen it counted that marriage confers over 1000 contracts or rights. I dont know how may the other methods secure.
> I've seen it counted that marriage confers over 1000 contracts or rights
Way over 1000 in fact, back in 2004, at the federal level alone, the GAO identified "1049 federal statutory provisions […] contingent on marital status or in which marital status is a factor"
http://www.gao.gov/new.items/d04353r.pdf
Way over 1000 in fact, back in 2004, at the federal level alone, the GAO identified "1049 federal statutory provisions […] contingent on marital status or in which marital status is a factor"
http://www.gao.gov/new.items/d04353r.pdf
Not to mention it's just plain dehumanizing.
How about joint adoption of children and spousal privilege for two really obvious flaws that come off the top of my head.
The other thing is it requires someone's actual parents to sever family ties. Removing someone's parents entirely from the next-of-kin hierarchy.
You're also missing something very very important from the article:
>They married 10 days later. After 52 years, marriage is “anti-climactic,” Novak said. But, he added, “psychologically, it makes you feel better. Like you’re a part of the human race.”
The other thing is it requires someone's actual parents to sever family ties. Removing someone's parents entirely from the next-of-kin hierarchy.
You're also missing something very very important from the article:
>They married 10 days later. After 52 years, marriage is “anti-climactic,” Novak said. But, he added, “psychologically, it makes you feel better. Like you’re a part of the human race.”
> The other thing is it requires someone's actual parents to sever family ties. Removing someone's parents entirely from the next-of-kin hierarchy.
No, you don't. That's just more paperwork. You don't need to sever relationships any more than the adoptee needs to look up to the adopter as a father rather than lover.
> You're also missing something very very important from the article:
That's pretty weaksauce.
No, you don't. That's just more paperwork. You don't need to sever relationships any more than the adoptee needs to look up to the adopter as a father rather than lover.
> You're also missing something very very important from the article:
That's pretty weaksauce.
Oh right, feeling like you are being treated humanely and respectfully is "weaksauce."
>No, you don't. That's just more paperwork. You don't need to sever relationships any more than the adoptee needs to look up to the adopter as a father rather than lover.
Legal family relationship.
From TFA:
> First, his biological mother had to legally disown him.
Meaning the mother isn't a legal next-of-kin anymore and also the reverse. So then you'd apparently have to have more legal paperwork to "fix" that I guess.... Mother would have to make sure her will/paperwork was perfect to not leave out child and child would make sure their will/paperwork was perfect so as to not leave out mother.
One example
If my mom died tomorrow my siblings and I would inherit her estate. If my mom had to disown me so I could be adopted by my spouse then the estate would go to my siblings only and not me. So my mom would have to first create a will and "add" me back in. Then I'd hope the siblings wouldn't try to challenge that in court or anything. After all that I still can't add my spouse (who is now legally my parent) to my health insurance! Sounds like a bum deal.
>No, you don't. That's just more paperwork. You don't need to sever relationships any more than the adoptee needs to look up to the adopter as a father rather than lover.
Legal family relationship.
From TFA:
> First, his biological mother had to legally disown him.
Meaning the mother isn't a legal next-of-kin anymore and also the reverse. So then you'd apparently have to have more legal paperwork to "fix" that I guess.... Mother would have to make sure her will/paperwork was perfect to not leave out child and child would make sure their will/paperwork was perfect so as to not leave out mother.
One example
If my mom died tomorrow my siblings and I would inherit her estate. If my mom had to disown me so I could be adopted by my spouse then the estate would go to my siblings only and not me. So my mom would have to first create a will and "add" me back in. Then I'd hope the siblings wouldn't try to challenge that in court or anything. After all that I still can't add my spouse (who is now legally my parent) to my health insurance! Sounds like a bum deal.
> Oh right, feeling like you are being treated humanely and respectfully is "weaksauce."
Yes, it is. When the best one can say for the culmination of a multi-generational civil rights struggle is that it makes you feel a little better, then that's not much of a improvement.
> Mother would have to make sure her will/paperwork was perfect to not leave out child and child would make sure their will/paperwork was perfect so as to not leave out mother.
Your parents should already be drawing up a will because the problems with dying intestate go well beyond accidentally leaving out a child. (You're worried about siblings challenging a will? Enjoy what will happen without a will!) Your hypothetical is only relevant in a situation in which people have already screwed up big time. As downsides go, this is very small compared to what one gained.
> After all that I still can't add my spouse (who is now legally my parent) to my health insurance
Children usually go on the health insurance, so you could have done it the other way around. I would also point out that in the relevant time period, employer health insurance was not as critical as it is now. (I don't know how Obamacare would enter in here.)
> Sounds like a bum deal.
The question is not whether it was worse than regular marriage, since it is. The question is whether adoption is so futile and useless a strategy that it was not worth doing at all. And that's not supported by OP at all.
Yes, it is. When the best one can say for the culmination of a multi-generational civil rights struggle is that it makes you feel a little better, then that's not much of a improvement.
> Mother would have to make sure her will/paperwork was perfect to not leave out child and child would make sure their will/paperwork was perfect so as to not leave out mother.
Your parents should already be drawing up a will because the problems with dying intestate go well beyond accidentally leaving out a child. (You're worried about siblings challenging a will? Enjoy what will happen without a will!) Your hypothetical is only relevant in a situation in which people have already screwed up big time. As downsides go, this is very small compared to what one gained.
> After all that I still can't add my spouse (who is now legally my parent) to my health insurance
Children usually go on the health insurance, so you could have done it the other way around. I would also point out that in the relevant time period, employer health insurance was not as critical as it is now. (I don't know how Obamacare would enter in here.)
> Sounds like a bum deal.
The question is not whether it was worse than regular marriage, since it is. The question is whether adoption is so futile and useless a strategy that it was not worth doing at all. And that's not supported by OP at all.
Adult children do not go on health insurance. Adult children do not usually get any work provided benefits at all.
Well, not to be pedantic, but the article actually does say the adoption tactic failed, at least once:
> There had been an article in The Advocate about a couple in the Midwest who unsuccessfully tried to adopt each other in order to forge a legal bond.
> There had been an article in The Advocate about a couple in the Midwest who unsuccessfully tried to adopt each other in order to forge a legal bond.
"adopting each other" is meaningless and the citation is vague. Some googling of The Advocate's website suggests this is probably a reference to Baker and McConnell, where the regular adoption did succeed: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/17/us/the-same-sex-couple-who...
So? The point remains the article specifically cites a situation where the adoption process fails, which directly contradicts the previous statement, and lends credence to the theory that the commenter hadn't actually read the majority of the article.
> The point remains the article specifically cites a situation where the adoption process fails
No, it doesn't. The article vaguely alludes to a third-hand description of the failure of a legal tactic which taken literally is nonsensical; and as far as I can tell, when those two people tried in the sensible standard manner used by everyone else (the manner in which the article is about), did succeed.
No, it doesn't. The article vaguely alludes to a third-hand description of the failure of a legal tactic which taken literally is nonsensical; and as far as I can tell, when those two people tried in the sensible standard manner used by everyone else (the manner in which the article is about), did succeed.
> No, it doesn't.
Yes, it does. It literally has that, right there, in the text. As quoted, you are factually incorrect.
Yes, it does. It literally has that, right there, in the text. As quoted, you are factually incorrect.
People still make that argument now. SCOTUS decisions don't suddenly change everyone's mind.
SCOTUS decisions don't change hearts and minds, that's true. But SCOTUS decisions tend to follow long-term changes in public opininion. Gay marriage wouldn't have passed 50 years ago. SCOTUS acts like a classic common law court: the law exists independently of the courts, in the people, and the task of the court is to discover it.
> SCOTUS acts like a classic common law court: the law exists independently of the courts, in the people, and the task of the court is to discover it.
That's true in many important Constitutional areas, in many cases because parts of the Constitution are generally read in a way which incorporates that view (its particularly true, e.g., of things like 8th amendment "cruel and unusual" standards, 4th amendment reasonableness, 9th amendment nonenumerated rights, and 5th and 14th amendment due process.)
That is, the ways in which the Supreme Court "acts like a classic common law court" are because certain written sources of law like the Constitution or particular statutes are understood to require the court to do that to apply the law as intended, because the text itself invokes considerations that require consideration of the social context to apply.
That's true in many important Constitutional areas, in many cases because parts of the Constitution are generally read in a way which incorporates that view (its particularly true, e.g., of things like 8th amendment "cruel and unusual" standards, 4th amendment reasonableness, 9th amendment nonenumerated rights, and 5th and 14th amendment due process.)
That is, the ways in which the Supreme Court "acts like a classic common law court" are because certain written sources of law like the Constitution or particular statutes are understood to require the court to do that to apply the law as intended, because the text itself invokes considerations that require consideration of the social context to apply.
Not necessarily. While SCOTUS legalized gay marriage after public support for it passed 50%, it wasn't until decades after SCOTUS legalized interracial marriage that public support for it passed 50%.
xkcd has an interesting graph of this: https://xkcd.com/1431/
xkcd has an interesting graph of this: https://xkcd.com/1431/
You are right. I don't think SCOTUS looks at gallup polls and decides to endorse anything that meets a 50% threshold. It's more about recognizing a change in opinion and a consensus in the making. Interracial marriage was not at 50% but firmly on the way up.
> SCOTUS acts like a classic common law court: the law exists independently of the courts, in the people, and the task of the court is to discover it
I hope, for the sake of American democracy, that this just isn't true.
I hope, for the sake of American democracy, that this just isn't true.
Why? It takes more than 50% of expressed votes every two years to make a functionnal democracy.
I don't even know where to begin.
And I mean that literally. I started typing about five different responses, each beginning differently. None of them seemed to work, and besides I would've probably ended up typing too much anyway.
Instead I refer you to:
1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Separation_of_powers
2. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legitimacy_(political) and http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/legitimacy/
And I mean that literally. I started typing about five different responses, each beginning differently. None of them seemed to work, and besides I would've probably ended up typing too much anyway.
Instead I refer you to:
1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Separation_of_powers
2. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legitimacy_(political) and http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/legitimacy/
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Why is this article on hacker news? What does it have to do with this community? I am just wondering how it fits in to the vision of what HN is supposed to be. Or do I not understand what it is?
What do you think should be here? Why, specifically, do you think this doesn't fit?
I come here for news on cutting edge technology and startup culture, not social issues.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting. That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity.
There are gay people in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, and there are gay people in these forums. I would guess that there might be a higher percentage of gay people on HN than in the general U.S. population. Issues like this one are deeply important to them, and people who know them (which is a growing demographic).
In any case, HN is filled with submissions and comments on languages, platforms, and businesses that I really don't care much about, but their presence does not bother me.
On-Topic: Anything that good hackers would find interesting. That includes more than hacking and startups. If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be: anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity.
There are gay people in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, and there are gay people in these forums. I would guess that there might be a higher percentage of gay people on HN than in the general U.S. population. Issues like this one are deeply important to them, and people who know them (which is a growing demographic).
In any case, HN is filled with submissions and comments on languages, platforms, and businesses that I really don't care much about, but their presence does not bother me.
I've gotten so tired of the "Why is this on HN" and then someone posts that guidelines link (note that this is not a criticism of your comment).
I wish we had a canonical discussion thread that's led with an instance of "Why is this on HN", followed by someone's post of the guidelines link, followed by an "evergreen" discussion forum where folks can debate why non-tech related things are featured on HN - anytime someone posts that "why" comment, someone can link to that.
Let alone the fact that the basic mechanism of the site is not a mystery. Someone posts a link, and folks looking at the "new" tab upvote it, hence - it makes it to the front page. It's on the front page because people found it interesting! Who the fuck cares if it's not a technical article.
Furthermore, this article in particular is an example of a successful, noble "hack" of the legal system and as such deserves a mention on hacker news.
I wish we had a canonical discussion thread that's led with an instance of "Why is this on HN", followed by someone's post of the guidelines link, followed by an "evergreen" discussion forum where folks can debate why non-tech related things are featured on HN - anytime someone posts that "why" comment, someone can link to that.
Let alone the fact that the basic mechanism of the site is not a mystery. Someone posts a link, and folks looking at the "new" tab upvote it, hence - it makes it to the front page. It's on the front page because people found it interesting! Who the fuck cares if it's not a technical article.
Furthermore, this article in particular is an example of a successful, noble "hack" of the legal system and as such deserves a mention on hacker news.
I just didn't think it fit the profile. I didn't downvote nor complain, just asked what the justification was.
Wasn't hostile, but my inquiry has produced some downvotes. Go figure.
Wasn't hostile, but my inquiry has produced some downvotes. Go figure.
For what it's worth, you didn't get a downvote from me.
I would just point out however that questioning a topic's presence on a forum could easily be perceived to be hostility toward that topic. You might or might not know that on HN gay-related and other not-strictly-tech topics have come up on occasion that inevitably trigger queries like yours (some overtly hostile), and most likely the opposition you are experiencing comes from readers who have become tired of the routine.
I would just point out however that questioning a topic's presence on a forum could easily be perceived to be hostility toward that topic. You might or might not know that on HN gay-related and other not-strictly-tech topics have come up on occasion that inevitably trigger queries like yours (some overtly hostile), and most likely the opposition you are experiencing comes from readers who have become tired of the routine.
Searching for the word "gay", then ordering the results by time, then going to the earliest entries, shows many results for articles about homosexual experiences. These articles were being posted to HN seven years ago.