I was overweight so I hit the gym properly (cardio three times a week with a clear goal and milestones, changed my diet, sleep, habits, etc.) and lost nearly fifty pounds.
I changed my wardrobe completely because a. I had lost so much weight that almost everything I had was too loose and b. I wanted to refresh my "nerdy" wardrobe.
I put myself out there. I signed up and attended multiple meetups, including some specifically related to meeting potential romantic partners (casual gatherings, setup lunches, etc.) I tried to be social and attended more events outside my comfort zone where I would be near other people.
I tried OKCupid and Tinder. I created genuine, honest, complete profiles. I even had my photos professionally taken specifically for social networking/dating purposes (they are not the standard business portraits). I sent short, to-the-point messages to people I genuinely thought would be good potential matches.
I did all of this but none of it has worked. I'm lonelier than ever. At this point I've put more time and effort in this endeavor than anything else in my life, except I have absolutely nothing to show for it other than my loneliness.
From one forever-alone programmer to another: I sympathize, brother. There is nothing I understand in life more than this feeling. Hang in there, friend. I don't know if anything is going change for either one of us, but if knowing that you aren't the only one in this situations helps in the slightest, I hope this is helpful.
I was overweight so I hit the gym properly (cardio three times a week with a clear goal and milestones, changed my diet, sleep, habits, etc.) and lost nearly fifty pounds.
I changed my wardrobe completely because a. I had lost so much weight that almost everything I had was too loose and b. I wanted to refresh my "nerdy" wardrobe.
I put myself out there. I signed up and attended multiple meetups, including some specifically related to meeting potential romantic partners (casual gatherings, setup lunches, etc.) I tried to be social and attended more events outside my comfort zone where I would be near other people.
I tried OKCupid and Tinder. I created genuine, honest, complete profiles. I even had my photos professionally taken specifically for social networking/dating purposes (they are not the standard business portraits). I sent short, to-the-point messages to people I genuinely thought would be good potential matches.
I did all of this but none of it has worked. I'm lonelier than ever. At this point I've put more time and effort in this endeavor than anything else in my life, except I have absolutely nothing to show for it other than my loneliness.
From one forever-alone programmer to another: I sympathize, brother. There is nothing I understand in life more than this feeling. Hang in there, friend. I don't know if anything is going change for either one of us, but if knowing that you aren't the only one in this situations helps in the slightest, I hope this is helpful.