Quite ironic they suggest we use "demanding or entitled White woman" instead of "Karen". Isn't a Karen actually a "a female of European descent struggling with mental conditions of entitlement?"
Today its glasses of water by the sink, tomorrow it's "you have to sanitize the car steering wheel after you drive," and eventually it's "don't get close to me if you walked by the bus stop." I feel sorry for anyone who has to endure this.
You have not really given us enough information to suggest the best solution. For example, is this because you host many websites for other people who all use your custom nameservers? Either way, if you are hosting many sites with custom nameservers, look at what AWS does for its nameservers for route53. Theirs are set-up like so:
ns-1271.awsdns-11.co.uk
ns-522.awsdns-02.net
ns-433.awsdns-03.com
ns-1870.awsdns-03.org
In your case, you'd likely want to each domain used in your custom nameserver configuration to be registered at a different company. In this way, you no longer have a single point of failure.
While I agree that 200K in debt for a BA in English is not a wise choice, there's a whole class of families that can afford the 200K out of pocket, and will happily pay it for a top school. I have a child, and will do it for the following reasons:
- You only get one chance to be 18 - 22 years old. College is a great way to improve your appreciation of culture, society, and build social skills, prior to taking a full time job.
- I know many youngsters here will likely have a problem with this -- but the average 18 year old has some intellectual and emotional maturing to do. This can happen via the social and academic challenges of college. In fact, the best colleges will sell this over any practical skills.
Work life can be a grind, even for someone with their dream job. When was the last time you had a chance to try your hand at literary criticism, or game theory, or learning a new language? How did it go the first time you had to ask for help with an intellectual problem? (Probably a distant thought in the minds of the average senior developer). How about the last time you had to cooperate with several people you dislike? College is a good place to get started with these things.
Getting from zero to paying one's living expenses is probably the most difficult growth phase of any start-up. In my personal experience, this phase is best funded by technical debt. I suspect this is an unpopular opinion because cleaning up technical debt is no fun. None-the-less, I've seen it over and over -- a quasi-technical founder knows someone willing pay for XYZ, then that person makes it just well enough to work. A company is born, the rent gets paid, and perhaps an acquiring company cleans-up the tech stack.
My friend, you are not lost -- you are free. From what I can tell, you have your health, your youth (35 is still young) and you have some savings. If you don't have a mortgage, kids, a spouse, and a job you cannot leave, then you are free. The next step is to see the world. Get a one-way ticket to Chiang Mai and try to stay as long as possible. Learn the language, get a scooter, and talk to people. Live close to the earth, and when you eventually miss home, you will return a different person. Certain places are easier to reboot yourself than others. Pick some place warm and friendly.
That first feeling for true financial independence is different for everyone, I guess. For me it's having enough to pay for unexpected medical bills and children.
Since we are sharing stories...
I moved to East Asia, which can be an adult daycare for Western alcoholics, and realized not only could I drink every night of the week and still have a job, healthcare, significant other, and lots of friends -- this was becoming my life. I quit cold turkey about 8 years ago. Still in Asia, with a lot fewer friends, but getting deep sleep at night, and am able to focus and relax my mind almost on-demand, which was impossible before.
To better remove the criticism, add some honesty and objectivity...
"One of the first things I would think of, when trying to solve a problem like this, would be sshd. But, I may not understand the full scope of your problem."
This is affecting my websites that use cloudfront, for which Amazon apparently uses their own Route 53 for DNS (nslookup -query=ns cloudfront.net). Since the only way to call remote assets from cloudfront as a website asset is to use:
xyz.cloudfront.net
or a CNAME such as
mysites-cdn.com that maps to xyz.cloudfront.net it seems there is no way to use cloudfront without the Route53 lookup.
If route53 is down and that is required to use cloudfront how is this not affecting more people? I have had about dozen customers complain today.
Isn't this one of the surprising parts of growing old? As a young person you may feel that your future self will be attended by loving family members and caring friends. But, once you become a "head of household" or head of anything, it's often quite the opposite. Instead, you are responsible for attending to the emotional needs others.