Wow, wow, wow!
You hit a gold mine of advice with that question... I agree with all these comments.
I hope you can see the trend in most of these comments. It's just too easy to say, "Don't compare yourself to others, it's a waste of time!"- though true... It's easier said than done.
I found for me, the moments when I was happiest, balanced & free from all those negative thoughts about myself and where I stood compared to others- is when I focused on me.
The best version of yourself has nothing to do with anyone else.
I saw a therapist for 2 and a half years. The first year was twice a week. After putting in that much time with figuring out why I felt the way I did about myself, it changed everything. Your emotional intelligence, your soul is not always an easy thing to navigate, but that work is incredibly rewarding. As others have said, you're the only one that can do it. What I'm trying to say most is, begin.
May you find a balance in your humanity - be it physical, mentally, & spiritually. And may you find that the compelling question is not how you compare to others or what they may think of you, but rather how you think of yourself. Are you who YOU want to be? If not, begin. You got this ;-)
Big things will happen- it's safe to say that they take time.
Oh! and enjoy the ride!! Fuck- Nobody really knows for sure if we get another go at it.
Oh! and enjoy the ride!! Fuck- Nobody really knows for sure if we get another go at it.