I recommend one dating coach, Doc Love [0]. Read a few of his articles, listen to a few podcasts (episode 12 is a radio interview and great introduction to his approach [1]), and listen to this week's radio show on Wednesday/Thursday (depending on your timezone). Call in if you have a specific question.
Then think and decide for yourself if the way he speaks makes sense.
Also, the way you describe your situation is full of vagueness that makes it hard to give specific advice. This might also be revealing of a lack of clarity in your thinking. You might benefit from improving that. E.g. "trouble forming any sort of connection" -- any sort? You could slap a girl's butt, and there you go, instant connection right there.
But what you probably mean by 'connection' is mutual interest. So you like her, and she likes you. First, if you don't like her, then who cares? There's no problem for you to resolve here. You move on to the next one.
So the real problem is HER (lack of) interest in you. The problem of getting a girl to like you. Are you a likeable guy? Work on that. Two overlapping aspects to work on:
1. cultivating virtues that women find attractive
2. your sales pitch, your presentation, and getting yourself out there
[0] http://doclove.com
[1] http://www.doclove.com/2016/07/02/dwp-012-doc-on-the-outlaw-...
Then think and decide for yourself if the way he speaks makes sense.
Also, the way you describe your situation is full of vagueness that makes it hard to give specific advice. This might also be revealing of a lack of clarity in your thinking. You might benefit from improving that. E.g. "trouble forming any sort of connection" -- any sort? You could slap a girl's butt, and there you go, instant connection right there.
But what you probably mean by 'connection' is mutual interest. So you like her, and she likes you. First, if you don't like her, then who cares? There's no problem for you to resolve here. You move on to the next one.
So the real problem is HER (lack of) interest in you. The problem of getting a girl to like you. Are you a likeable guy? Work on that. Two overlapping aspects to work on:
1. cultivating virtues that women find attractive 2. your sales pitch, your presentation, and getting yourself out there
Nothing worthwhile is easy.