Are you an Asker or a Guesser?(guardian.co.uk)
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Are you an Asker or a Guesser?
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/may/08/change-life-asker-guesser
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Sounds exactly like Jeff Bigler's concept of Tact Filters (1996): http://www.mit.edu/~jcb/tact.html
>So, nerds need to understand that normal people have to apply tact to everything they say; they become really uncomfortable if they can't do this. Normal people need to understand that despite the fact that nerds are usually tactless, things they say are almost never meant personally and shouldn't be taken that way. Both types of people need to be extra patient when dealing with someone whose tact filter is backwards relative to their own.
>So, nerds need to understand that normal people have to apply tact to everything they say; they become really uncomfortable if they can't do this. Normal people need to understand that despite the fact that nerds are usually tactless, things they say are almost never meant personally and shouldn't be taken that way. Both types of people need to be extra patient when dealing with someone whose tact filter is backwards relative to their own.
Having a Japanese wife, I can confirm the validity of this! :)
Missed it and the original "Middle ground" post the first time round in 2007, so thanks for this.
Asker.