gross. i got a letter that looked like the bill for the record of a deed. but you can get the deed for free from the town. i wish consumer protection agency would do something about these scam companies.
Thanks for taking the time to reply. I can be hypercritical and thought that maybe I just needed some time and space away. So that's kind of where I was going, but...
You bring up a perspective I need to consider. Some faults are simply part of his character and have come up in non-work related settings. Others have revealed themselves through work disagreements.
But you are right in that I should communicate what is impacting work. And try to do it in a way that won't sound like I'm just blasting him. He is a good guy after all.
Thanks for taking the time to reply, j45. The points you bring up are quite astute despite my being vague on details.
Wrt "the person is as willing to look at themselves as much as point fingers", I actually thought I was being overly hypercritical because nothing in the past week has happened that would provoke me. So I just thought I needed time and space. That was what I was looking for wrt replies on HN, but...
Upon retrospect, we have also both been testier ever since our first idea didn't work out. So far so good with the new one, but that first one was 6 months of 0 traction that changed our dynamic.
You've given me a lot to think about, and I will need to think about how to have a constructive conversation that will help us move on.
I've been thinking a lot about why people share in communities, so this was a cool take on things. I'd tack on to the 3 P's that communities need members who are:
1. Motivated.
2. Empathetic.
Maybe these are no s* sherlocks. But I say motivated because people need incentives, whether it's the prospect of making money or building a reputation or getting recognition. There is something everyone is after, and many of even the best communities have some sort of reward system (HN & Quora off the top). And empathetic because members need to be able to relate to each other. If the sharer has high empathy then maybe less so. Here's a longer winded version of what I wrote: http://marketinghead.tumblr.com/post/31338994971/why-share
As I write this, maybe the closer community members are sympatico, the more likely you get community wo incentives needing to be so significant...
Maybe Peter Thiel's lecture on distribution has gotten the ball rolling. (To those of you who missed it: http://blakemasters.tumblr.com/post/22405055017/peter-thiels...) The reason I say this is that just a month ago I wrote a blog post about how inefficiency is an indicator of marketing opportunity, and his lecture was the inspiration.
I suspect we're all looking at the same startup reading material, and it's shaping our thoughts similarly.