Hi, I'm the author of this article, and reading these comments made me just think "wow, there is so much pain here."
I assume I'll get made fun of/trolled/whatever for this, but I guess all I really wanted to say in my article was "There were some difficult things I experienced as a woman in tech - but these are not independent of the difficult things men experience. We are all in this mess together."
Sexism is not men discriminating against women, it's a complicated interplay between the roles we are expected to act, and roles we want to act, and all genders suffer for it.
Maybe, also, I wished someone had said "I see how hard it is," when I was a woman programmer. So, in that spirit, to all the male programmers out there "I see how hard it is for you too."
I assume I'll get made fun of/trolled/whatever for this, but I guess all I really wanted to say in my article was "There were some difficult things I experienced as a woman in tech - but these are not independent of the difficult things men experience. We are all in this mess together."
Sexism is not men discriminating against women, it's a complicated interplay between the roles we are expected to act, and roles we want to act, and all genders suffer for it.
Maybe, also, I wished someone had said "I see how hard it is," when I was a woman programmer. So, in that spirit, to all the male programmers out there "I see how hard it is for you too."
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