What could be interesting is if you could compare your attempts to the avatar climbing and receiving feedback afterwards. This would effectively be a step up from simply recording your send attempts.
When I make a request, Meta begins to answer it (I can see the answer appear) and almost immediately, a negative response shows up indicating they’re working on it (ex: I ask if it’s capable of working in French, Meta indicates that it can, the message disappears and is replaced by “I don’t understand French yet, but I’m working on it. I will send you a message when we can talk in French”). What gives?
Hey bud! Similar boat; ~38 year olds, totally dead end job working in spec. ed. for the past 4 years, living on a dead end salary, in a dead end relationship. Barely can motivate myself to do anything with the kids in the classroom… man, I even wasted like, 9 years substitute teaching. been like this since 2009 when I graduated with my b.Ed. Totally messed up my undergrad in math. Can’t focus, procrastinate, etc.
When you wrote “Every night I promise myself to do/be better tomorrow and somehow get myself to sleep”, I almost cried. Same here bud. I keep looking to therapy but somehow I’ve never pulled the trigger… I’ve tried it in the past, got on some meds, only ended up with a case of ED and just feeling numb. Meds have sucked a lot.
Hopefully someone in the replies has some ideas. I like reading comments on HN. Always seems like people have insightful things to say even though I don’t understand half the things being said.
Anyway, I hope you find your solution. Sending you loving vibes as best I can.
Sleep performance anxiety is a real thing. I’ve had to deal with similar issues. I try not to put too much weight when reading these studies (because they are anxiety inducing) and stick to a healthy bedtime wind-down routine as best as I can.
1. Meet someone you're interested in via an online medium (tinder, bumble, POF, OKC, etc.) OR irl through social activities.
2. Go on a date. Follow KISS principle: evening time, grab a drink, socialize. Use FORD principle to create conversation. Test the waters with various topics of interests, talk about stuff that you find passionate (people usually gravitate to you if you speak passionately about something)
3. ??? Seriously, choose your own adventure.
4. You're dating. Second date, choose an activity or something else not drinking related (unless you bond over drinking... maybe that's your thing, no judgement).
You might have slightly misconstrued the parent comment.
To rework your idea: there's a spectrum for the quality of kisses. Some people figured out a way to convince you that their kisses are better than they actually are. Others are likely better, but they don't know how to market themselves, and thus don't get kissed as much.