Are You Concerned Your 4 Year Old Isn’t in a Cool Band?(priceonomics.com)
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Are You Concerned Your 4 Year Old Isn’t in a Cool Band?
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My wife and I brought my son to a rock band camp in the Boston area. My son loved it and maybe helped encourage him to still be an amateur musician all these years later.
At the same time it felt very weird to be seeing rock-n'-roll packaged, codified and commodified the way it was. At pick-up time you see a bunch of youngsters mirroring the clothes and attitude of rock culture - while being loaded into their parents' minivans. I couldn't help feeling a bit uneasy about the whole thing to be honest.
Back In My Day™ rock was a much more organically rebellious activity.
At the same time it felt very weird to be seeing rock-n'-roll packaged, codified and commodified the way it was. At pick-up time you see a bunch of youngsters mirroring the clothes and attitude of rock culture - while being loaded into their parents' minivans. I couldn't help feeling a bit uneasy about the whole thing to be honest.
Back In My Day™ rock was a much more organically rebellious activity.
"Everybody in this room is wearing a uniform - don't kid yourself." - Frank Zappa.
True enough - rock and pop have become completely stylised and self-referential, like a sweatier and louder version of Japanese Noh theatre (or something.)
That's not a reason for kids not to play at it. And the story telling part of this idea sounds great.
Ironically, it's probably more creative than the rock and pop industries are now.
That's not a reason for kids not to play at it. And the story telling part of this idea sounds great.
Ironically, it's probably more creative than the rock and pop industries are now.
"They put the most distortion on the pink guitars, to subtly encourage the younger boys to break gender norms."
I love it!
Seems like a really well thought-out program, albeit - in my eyes - let down somewhat by an advert that implies it'll have much less depth than it actually has.
I love it!
Seems like a really well thought-out program, albeit - in my eyes - let down somewhat by an advert that implies it'll have much less depth than it actually has.
So the boys-like-distortion gender norm trumps the pink-is-for-girls gender norm?
So the boys-like-distortion gender norm trumps the pink-is-for-girls gender norm?
No, that's not what I'm saying, nor what I believe the program is saying either.
To my mind, everyone likes fun with distortion, and colouring the relevant guitars pink helps break down the "pink is for girls" gender norm, nothing more, nothing less.
Actually, being perfectly honest, I'd never even heard of "boys like distortion" as a gender norm; is that a thing?
No, that's not what I'm saying, nor what I believe the program is saying either.
To my mind, everyone likes fun with distortion, and colouring the relevant guitars pink helps break down the "pink is for girls" gender norm, nothing more, nothing less.
Actually, being perfectly honest, I'd never even heard of "boys like distortion" as a gender norm; is that a thing?
>I'd never even heard of "boys like distortion" as a gender norm; is that a thing?
It obviously IS a thing. Check out the predominantly buyers of distortion pedals, or the near absolute majority of workshippers of "shredding" guitarists and heavy players. Also check any magazine about those kind of things, incudings any advertisments of heavy guitar gear, amps and distortion pedals. You will of course find 2-3 counter-examples. You'd be hard-pressed to find 10, much less 50.
It obviously IS a thing. Check out the predominantly buyers of distortion pedals, or the near absolute majority of workshippers of "shredding" guitarists and heavy players. Also check any magazine about those kind of things, incudings any advertisments of heavy guitar gear, amps and distortion pedals. You will of course find 2-3 counter-examples. You'd be hard-pressed to find 10, much less 50.
Are you correcting for low representation of women in those magazines anyway?
Is the low representation based on that publishers of said magazines not liking women's money [1], or that there aren't enough women players buying those magazines?
[1] Especially considering that women are the most sought after group by advertisers/marketeers, even more so than men.
[1] Especially considering that women are the most sought after group by advertisers/marketeers, even more so than men.
I've not researched statistics on this, but anecdotally, I've observed more men than women playing musical instruments in general.
What are you observing? If you are talking about rock instruments, you are probably correct.
My son is highly involved in his high school band (concert and marching), and the gender breakdown is very instrument specific. A lot more girls play flute and clarinet while a lot more boys play sousaphone, trombone, and percussion.
Part of it is physical - not that many girls can march around with a heavy sousaphone. But I do think there is a bias that pushes girls and boys at a young age when starting out towards certain instruments.
My son is highly involved in his high school band (concert and marching), and the gender breakdown is very instrument specific. A lot more girls play flute and clarinet while a lot more boys play sousaphone, trombone, and percussion.
Part of it is physical - not that many girls can march around with a heavy sousaphone. But I do think there is a bias that pushes girls and boys at a young age when starting out towards certain instruments.
I'm observing my own personally biased sample set. :-)
- I played in a jazz band in college: across all of the department jazz bands, probably 95% male participants.
- Attending the local symphony: approximately half and half, and I do seem to find the male/female ratio in classical music performances tends to be more balanced.
- Perusing musical instrument stores across the country: predominantly male shoppers.
- Listening to recorded music: I don't consciously (or, I think, even unconsciously) select music based on the sex of the artist. Most music I've listened to has been produced either mostly or entirely by male participants. More specifically, I listen to a lot of jazz and jazz-related genres of music; it's rare that I even encounter a female performer in those genres. (Rare, as in, maybe 5-10% of the time.)
- Playing music in local bands: most other participants have been male.
I personally suspect that high school band participation is, at least in some cases, driven by external motivators besides intrinsic musical interest. In my (again anecdotal) observations, many people who were actively involved in high school bands put their instruments away more or less permanently after high school.
Anyway, again, I have no concrete statistical data, and I certainly agree that high school participation is more balanced.
- I played in a jazz band in college: across all of the department jazz bands, probably 95% male participants.
- Attending the local symphony: approximately half and half, and I do seem to find the male/female ratio in classical music performances tends to be more balanced.
- Perusing musical instrument stores across the country: predominantly male shoppers.
- Listening to recorded music: I don't consciously (or, I think, even unconsciously) select music based on the sex of the artist. Most music I've listened to has been produced either mostly or entirely by male participants. More specifically, I listen to a lot of jazz and jazz-related genres of music; it's rare that I even encounter a female performer in those genres. (Rare, as in, maybe 5-10% of the time.)
- Playing music in local bands: most other participants have been male.
I personally suspect that high school band participation is, at least in some cases, driven by external motivators besides intrinsic musical interest. In my (again anecdotal) observations, many people who were actively involved in high school bands put their instruments away more or less permanently after high school.
Anyway, again, I have no concrete statistical data, and I certainly agree that high school participation is more balanced.
I doubt they intentionally colored the guitars; they bought the guitars and some were pink, so they decided to attach the distortion to those as a side effect. Children size guitars are frequently brightly colored, some of which are a brilliant pepto-bismol pink.
By giving the children a choice of not only sound but color, they're sticking with some good punk traditions, IMHO.
By giving the children a choice of not only sound but color, they're sticking with some good punk traditions, IMHO.
> To my mind, everyone likes fun with distortion, and colouring the relevant guitars pink helps break down the "pink is for girls" gender norm, nothing more, nothing less.
What if boys prefer different colors then pink ? Dat oppresion.
What if boys prefer different colors then pink ? Dat oppresion.
I have never heard that boys particularly like distortion and certainly do not think it is a gender norm. Heck, many of my favourite shoegaze bands have women as very prominent members and creative forces...
I somehow doubt that you play guitar, so I should also point out that playing a heavily distorted guitar is tremendously fun for anyone. Guitar is the toughest instrument I've ever played badly and I still think it's great fun.
I somehow doubt that you play guitar, so I should also point out that playing a heavily distorted guitar is tremendously fun for anyone. Guitar is the toughest instrument I've ever played badly and I still think it's great fun.
I listen to metal and stoner rock, from the top of my mind I can think of only 2 bands that include women (Acid King and Electric Wizard).
> I somehow doubt that you play guitar, so I should also point out that playing a heavily distorted guitar is tremendously fun for anyone.
Wait, what? How the hell you concluded that from my simple assumption (which might be correct or not) that there's a boys-like-distortion gender norm?
I suppose we have a different understanding of what a gender norm is.
> I somehow doubt that you play guitar, so I should also point out that playing a heavily distorted guitar is tremendously fun for anyone.
Wait, what? How the hell you concluded that from my simple assumption (which might be correct or not) that there's a boys-like-distortion gender norm?
I suppose we have a different understanding of what a gender norm is.
You wrote, "So the boys-like-distortion gender norm trumps the pink-is-for-girls gender norm?" I guess I misunderstood that, but it really sounds like you named a boys-like-distortion gender norm because you think it exists. I disagree because I have been drawn to guitars since I was in my teens and I've gotten into way too many bands that rely upon women.
My friend Shawn introduced me to an Acid King cd the last time he was in town and I have been a fan since. I'm always glad to hear someone mention them as they're on my 'must see live' list. There's a really neat doomy stoner band called Black Moth that has come out with some good stuff. They're sort of like Sabbath with female vocals.
My friend Shawn introduced me to an Acid King cd the last time he was in town and I have been a fan since. I'm always glad to hear someone mention them as they're on my 'must see live' list. There's a really neat doomy stoner band called Black Moth that has come out with some good stuff. They're sort of like Sabbath with female vocals.
I think it exists, but a gender norm is a social construct i.e. there are certain expectations that boys should behave like this and girls should behave like that. When I say such a gender norm exists, I'm not implying that it's a biological thing or that boys are better at this and girls are better at that, or that I agree with that particular norm. Sorry if it sounded like that.
I'll check Black Moth, thanks for the recommendation.
I'll check Black Moth, thanks for the recommendation.
Everyone likes distortion.
And it's not just breaking "pink is for girls", but also "pink is not for boys"; something that children enforce pretty strictly.
And it's not just breaking "pink is for girls", but also "pink is not for boys"; something that children enforce pretty strictly.
>> Everyone likes distortion.
It's a fact. Play a copy of "Sleep's Holy Mountain" for someone, then show them some Kenny Rogers. Note the results.
It's a fact. Play a copy of "Sleep's Holy Mountain" for someone, then show them some Kenny Rogers. Note the results.
>Everyone likes distortion.
Citation needed.
Let's compare girl bands with heavy distortion compared to male bands as such.
Citation needed.
Let's compare girl bands with heavy distortion compared to male bands as such.
What is a girl band and what is a male band?
The first time I saw Nashville Pussy, Corey Parks was still playing bass for them. Her brother, Cherokee was an NBA player at the time and from my place in the pit, Corey Parks looked about seven feet tall. The combination of the very tall and imposing Corey Parks playing bass on one side, combined with Ruyter Sighs playing guitar on the other was very powerful. Nashville Pussy's lead singer and drummer were both men, but Ruyter Sighs' flat out amazing guitar playing really drove the sound. Are they a girl band or a male band?
Or, what about Sonic Youth? Are they are a girl band or a male band? Kim Gordon and Thurston Moore decided they wanted to start making music, so they recruited Lee Ranaldo and eventually found a drummer. Kim Gordon was just as much a creative force as any of the men she played with and when she finally put her bass down, lo and behold, she was a damned good guitar player.
Or, how about Bikini Kill? Are they a girl band or a male band? They're most heavily associated with riot grrl and are mostly considered Kathleen Hanna's band, but Billy Karren was a straight up incredible guitar player. If there was any justice, he would be recognized as one of the truly great musicians to come out of that soon to be famous Washington scene.
Or, in a different genre, are the Cocteau Twins a girl band or a male band? I simply can't imagine that band without Elizabeth Fraser nor would I want to.
Debbie Googe and Bilinda Butcher have been members of My Bloody Valentine since the late 1980s and I simply can't imagine what MBV would sound like without those two amazing women. Their other two members are male. Are they a girl band or a male band?
Or, Slowdive? Rachel Goswell formed the band in the late 80s with a guy she knew since she was a kid. Are they a girl band or a male band?
More personally, my sister is in a thrash metal band. A woman I dated several years back used to play drums in a weird shoegaze/electronic fusion band.
The first time I saw Nashville Pussy, Corey Parks was still playing bass for them. Her brother, Cherokee was an NBA player at the time and from my place in the pit, Corey Parks looked about seven feet tall. The combination of the very tall and imposing Corey Parks playing bass on one side, combined with Ruyter Sighs playing guitar on the other was very powerful. Nashville Pussy's lead singer and drummer were both men, but Ruyter Sighs' flat out amazing guitar playing really drove the sound. Are they a girl band or a male band?
Or, what about Sonic Youth? Are they are a girl band or a male band? Kim Gordon and Thurston Moore decided they wanted to start making music, so they recruited Lee Ranaldo and eventually found a drummer. Kim Gordon was just as much a creative force as any of the men she played with and when she finally put her bass down, lo and behold, she was a damned good guitar player.
Or, how about Bikini Kill? Are they a girl band or a male band? They're most heavily associated with riot grrl and are mostly considered Kathleen Hanna's band, but Billy Karren was a straight up incredible guitar player. If there was any justice, he would be recognized as one of the truly great musicians to come out of that soon to be famous Washington scene.
Or, in a different genre, are the Cocteau Twins a girl band or a male band? I simply can't imagine that band without Elizabeth Fraser nor would I want to.
Debbie Googe and Bilinda Butcher have been members of My Bloody Valentine since the late 1980s and I simply can't imagine what MBV would sound like without those two amazing women. Their other two members are male. Are they a girl band or a male band?
Or, Slowdive? Rachel Goswell formed the band in the late 80s with a guy she knew since she was a kid. Are they a girl band or a male band?
More personally, my sister is in a thrash metal band. A woman I dated several years back used to play drums in a weird shoegaze/electronic fusion band.
>What is a girl band and what is a male band?
A band with girls in it is a girl band, and a band with males in it is a male band. The Bangles vs the Led Zeppelin.
Mixed bands are quite fewer -- which obliterates the whole mixed counterexamples thing.
A band with girls in it is a girl band, and a band with males in it is a male band. The Bangles vs the Led Zeppelin.
Mixed bands are quite fewer -- which obliterates the whole mixed counterexamples thing.
Gladly:
Thorrs Hammer (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZ57PS-5bhM)
Kylesa (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFRirdsEDHo)
Ephel Duath (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EX9cgbNMMEo)
Arch Enemy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBDnU382y7U)
Sigh (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAFIuE-qm9E)
Electric Wizard (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jzem_-At6F4)
These ladies can out-heavy their male counterparts any day of the week.
Thorrs Hammer (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZ57PS-5bhM)
Kylesa (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFRirdsEDHo)
Ephel Duath (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EX9cgbNMMEo)
Arch Enemy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBDnU382y7U)
Sigh (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAFIuE-qm9E)
Electric Wizard (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jzem_-At6F4)
These ladies can out-heavy their male counterparts any day of the week.
Can't edit now, but just wanted to add that female musicians also seem to crop up regularly in the Hardcore Punk and Grindcore scenes.
I'm thinking of acts like Despise You, Gasp, Agoraphobic Nosebleed. Worth checking out.
I'm thinking of acts like Despise You, Gasp, Agoraphobic Nosebleed. Worth checking out.
I was going to cosign this but then I saw Arch Enemy. Substitute Bolt Thrower and we have a deal.
How in the hell did I forget about Bolt Thrower?
Shame on me!
Shame on me!
To be fair, I did _just_ see them this past weekend.
How are a few obscure examples a counter-argument? We're not talking about existance or not but trends.
E.g. one could also give 20,000 all-male metal bands...
E.g. one could also give 20,000 all-male metal bands...
>> 20,000 all-male metal bands...
20,000 all-male bands who don't kill as hard as Kylesa or Thorrs Hammer maybe.
It's starting to sound like you've got a pre-existing conclusion, that girls can't rock, and you're trying to find something to support that conclusion regardless of what other evidence is presented.
I say that in the Metal scene it's widely acknowledged that women can rock just as hard as their male peers. We stamped out a lot of that sexist shit a while ago.
20,000 all-male bands who don't kill as hard as Kylesa or Thorrs Hammer maybe.
It's starting to sound like you've got a pre-existing conclusion, that girls can't rock, and you're trying to find something to support that conclusion regardless of what other evidence is presented.
I say that in the Metal scene it's widely acknowledged that women can rock just as hard as their male peers. We stamped out a lot of that sexist shit a while ago.
>20,000 all-male bands who don't kill as hard as Kylesa or Thorrs Hammer maybe. It's starting to sound like you've got a pre-existing conclusion, that girls can't rock, and you're trying to find something to support that conclusion regardless of what other evidence is presented
Who said anything about "killing it"? That's about quality (not to mention subjective). Of course women can rock -- there are several example (and it would only take one anyway to prove such a thing).
We're talking about quantity -- whether women rock generally more than men, or actually, as this started, whether men like loud music and distortion more.
Who said anything about "killing it"? That's about quality (not to mention subjective). Of course women can rock -- there are several example (and it would only take one anyway to prove such a thing).
We're talking about quantity -- whether women rock generally more than men, or actually, as this started, whether men like loud music and distortion more.
Fuck me it's like it's 1992 again with the "women can't rock' bullshit spewed out by NME.
Search for butt-dumb on this page as a bit of background: http://www.stylusmagazine.com/articles/weekly_article/i-love...
Search for butt-dumb on this page as a bit of background: http://www.stylusmagazine.com/articles/weekly_article/i-love...
Well, some can rock. Memphis Minie. Jannis Joplin. Kim Deal.
Most don't.
Are we making observations from the majority or from abstract principles?
Most don't.
Are we making observations from the majority or from abstract principles?
You're conflating can and do, so neither.
I'm not conflating it, but perhaps you are. Never said women can't. The whole question was about whether women DO (in the same numbers) as men. Specifically whether women like distortion as much as men.
Your own words were "some can rock" and "most don't", thereby casting the two against each other, so I stand by what I said.
Everyone likes distortion, but dudes have the 40lb pedal boards.
Music machinery made a post[1] on what men and women listen to on Spotify. It has 40 most popular artists for either genre, 20 most gender skewed artists, and 12 most gender skewed genres. I haven't gone through and annotated each and every one of them, but at a glance it seems neither has a lot of distortion at the top 40. But in the male-skewed genres/artists there is a lot more distortion than in the female-skewed.
[1] http://musicmachinery.com/2014/02/10/gender-specific-listeni...
[1] http://musicmachinery.com/2014/02/10/gender-specific-listeni...
Nice article. I was shocked by how much gender preferences aligned with the artists gender, and how I didn't recognize 90% of the female biased artists. What's going on there? I don't know. Also, it seems like artists preferred by the gentler sex are also targeted to young people. Does this mean that adult women are cool with kid music, or does it mean the majority of female listeners are young, or something else? Again, don't know.
I read this and thought: there should be some forum like reddit's NotTheOnion called NotPortlandia for this sort of thing. I went to reddit and discovered that there was. Shock.
You can’t just say “no” to an idea: it’s your responsibility to adapt it.
There's a similar idea at Pixar - it's called 'plussing'. You accept someone else's point and use it as a starting point to build something amazing. There's a really worthwhile Randy Nelson talk about it on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QhXJe8ANws8
There's a similar idea at Pixar - it's called 'plussing'. You accept someone else's point and use it as a starting point to build something amazing. There's a really worthwhile Randy Nelson talk about it on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QhXJe8ANws8
Sounds great, actually, if I was living in SF I would sign up my kids immediately.
the opposite: I would be concerned if my 5 year old kid was pushed by someone to become a rock musician.
On Earth we only need that many rock stars, and there is already an intense competition over the only few places available. I know many musicians that didn't get enough success and have hard time earning food money.
I suspect that a kid whose fate is to become a musician will find a way to become one. This do not need to be encouraged even only a little. I find it more responsible to give kids the most "normal" (classic) education, while keeping doors open for later. It is easier to pivot from postman to writer (Bukowski) than from pretend rock star to bank teller.
On Earth we only need that many rock stars, and there is already an intense competition over the only few places available. I know many musicians that didn't get enough success and have hard time earning food money.
I suspect that a kid whose fate is to become a musician will find a way to become one. This do not need to be encouraged even only a little. I find it more responsible to give kids the most "normal" (classic) education, while keeping doors open for later. It is easier to pivot from postman to writer (Bukowski) than from pretend rock star to bank teller.
Do you understand that this is an extra-curricular activity and not an actual primary school?
If you understand that point and still balk at a program like this because it doesn't 'keep enough doors open' (???), I strongly encourage you to readjust this mindset before you have children. And, if you do have children, I am even more vehement that you need to change your tune.
Small children deserve to use their imaginations and dream the wildest dreams imaginable. They deserve this not only because they are little kids and childhood is brutally short, but also because their brains are highly plastic and they are rapidly developing cognitive skills that adults take for granted.
Children who are interested in the arts absolutely deserve encouragement because every single child on earth deserves to be encouraged. Children deserve to be encouraged to be the best versions of themselves that they can be.
If you understand that point and still balk at a program like this because it doesn't 'keep enough doors open' (???), I strongly encourage you to readjust this mindset before you have children. And, if you do have children, I am even more vehement that you need to change your tune.
Small children deserve to use their imaginations and dream the wildest dreams imaginable. They deserve this not only because they are little kids and childhood is brutally short, but also because their brains are highly plastic and they are rapidly developing cognitive skills that adults take for granted.
Children who are interested in the arts absolutely deserve encouragement because every single child on earth deserves to be encouraged. Children deserve to be encouraged to be the best versions of themselves that they can be.
I do encourage imagination, mostly by giving the example. But this means building weird things with Lego, it doesn't mean pushing babies on a stage with sunglasses and fake ovations by the parents. In our difficult times living a happy life most often means living far away from the media and the society of spectacle. Nothing bothers me more than the exhibitions of those little prodigy on t.v., it is rewarding for the parents only and steals away childhood from the kids.
I know people who have their kids in this program. It has nothing to do with prodigy culture or even really about the actual performative aspects in front of other people--it's about encouraging a love of music and feeling good about making something. That you're getting salty about it is, to be honest, kinda really weird.
I know it is not a very common way to think about parents responsibilities nowadays, but it was more so in the past. And I think it was reasonable to ask children to first pursue normal "un-sexy" education before getting more "creative", because in the end the kid will have to get a job, and choosing paths where jobs are not too competitive and pay the rent makes sense.
A good friend of mine has his preteen daughter embarqued into writing a book, and this is ridiculous. Kids do not have to be creative, nobody has to be creative. Being creative is a gift (or a curse) that only a few have, and when it is strong enough to be a vocation, it will find its way, even against a classic (boring) education.
Also, I hate the star system where a few crasy people are given as examples to the populace, while in fact they have most often a miserable life.
A good friend of mine has his preteen daughter embarqued into writing a book, and this is ridiculous. Kids do not have to be creative, nobody has to be creative. Being creative is a gift (or a curse) that only a few have, and when it is strong enough to be a vocation, it will find its way, even against a classic (boring) education.
Also, I hate the star system where a few crasy people are given as examples to the populace, while in fact they have most often a miserable life.
There are many things I could say in response to that, but I am constrained by the standards of HN decorum to not say most of them. I will, though, echo hluska in that I don't think you understand what Rock Band Land is. I will also note that the idea that "only a few have" creativity is kind of hilarious, but the humor is dampened by hearing a parent (or anyone, but especially one charged with the raising of children) say such a thing. Almost every child I've ever met was a wellspring of creativity waiting to be tapped, though I've certainly encountered cases where nobody around them knew how to encourage the child to express it. And I certainly know many adults who had any spark of creative drive beaten out of them. I'll leave it to you and your sterling grasp of society to figure out the whys and hows of that.
Okay but once again, do you understand that this is an extra-curricular program and not a primary school??? That means that it is recreation outside of school hours. It is recreation outside of school hours where kids are encouraged to be creative, to take risks, to perform in front of people and to tell stories. Do you force your children to spend their recreation time working on things that will directly result in a job?
I will be blunt. The way that you are talking has me feeling serious concern about your children. Being creative is not 'a gift that only a few have' - every child has an imagination and I have never met a person who cannot come up with a new idea.
I will be blunt. The way that you are talking has me feeling serious concern about your children. Being creative is not 'a gift that only a few have' - every child has an imagination and I have never met a person who cannot come up with a new idea.
In developped western countries, we live in a world where being original and creative is supposed to be the norm. It is not the same in other parts of the planet, and it was not always like that in the West. Allow me to question this new party line. There are many other values that can be prefered in a human being, like being reliable, good to others, respectful, etc. I also think that being ambitious is not always the best way to get an happy life.
I happen to live in China, and there encouraging some creativity in children is quite required, because the education system is very strict and allow only few expression of the self, if any. But in the West, we went too far, and kids and their parents feel easily frustrated if the offspring is no Mozart, that's why I would not encourage more in this context, and certainly would not push my kids (who are doing well, thanks) to Rock Star Schools of any kind (I certainly do encourage drawing the things they want the way they want, but I usually do not post their drawings to my social medias in the hope of showing who genious they are).
I happen to live in China, and there encouraging some creativity in children is quite required, because the education system is very strict and allow only few expression of the self, if any. But in the West, we went too far, and kids and their parents feel easily frustrated if the offspring is no Mozart, that's why I would not encourage more in this context, and certainly would not push my kids (who are doing well, thanks) to Rock Star Schools of any kind (I certainly do encourage drawing the things they want the way they want, but I usually do not post their drawings to my social medias in the hope of showing who genious they are).
- Rock Band Land does offer private lessons, but only to rockers of a certain age or maturity level, and only if the rockers themselves display a persistent interest in learning to play the instrument. “We only offer lessons once the kid has been asking for an instrument all the time,” Gorman says. “If we sense that the request for lessons is coming from the parents and not the rockers, we almost always say no."
People have hobbies. Hobbies are probably important, especially if there's a social aspect to them. They're also fun.
This doesn't seem to be pushy parents giving their five your old children pushup bras and entering them into pageants, or yelling insults from the bleachers.
This doesn't seem to be pushy parents giving their five your old children pushup bras and entering them into pageants, or yelling insults from the bleachers.
As a counterpoint, people pay to send their kids to football camp even though we only need so many NFL stars or people pursuing that career.
When I was a kid my folks paid for me to attend summer/day camp one year (some of the summer was day camp and some was overnight camp). We mostly just played outdoor sports and games, did arts and crafts, and more often than not, just sorta screwed around because we were kids and it was fun to screw around and play with stuff. I never pursued a career in any of the things I played with back then but I did learn to interact with other kids and participate in some fun activities. If anything, the part that sucked was that the activities were more things that we weren't always interested in. If I had the choice between dodge ball or learning to play basic rock drums, I'd have picked drums in a second.
I think in the end, these camps and groups exist because people want their kids to be occupied and engaged. There are plenty of parents who have to work and don't have the skills or aptitudes to spend weeks playing soccer or music with their kids. If someone starts a summer camp or a rock band camp as a way to make a living while providing this service to people eager to pay for it, I can't see too much wrong with it.
It's certainly a shame that not every kid has the opportunity to spend their free time having fun and trying out new activities but that's a whole other issue. In general, I think I'm a bit jealous that even as an adult I don't have the opportunity to have someone "coach" a group of other music enthusiasts past the pitfalls of trying to write and perform music.
When I was a kid my folks paid for me to attend summer/day camp one year (some of the summer was day camp and some was overnight camp). We mostly just played outdoor sports and games, did arts and crafts, and more often than not, just sorta screwed around because we were kids and it was fun to screw around and play with stuff. I never pursued a career in any of the things I played with back then but I did learn to interact with other kids and participate in some fun activities. If anything, the part that sucked was that the activities were more things that we weren't always interested in. If I had the choice between dodge ball or learning to play basic rock drums, I'd have picked drums in a second.
I think in the end, these camps and groups exist because people want their kids to be occupied and engaged. There are plenty of parents who have to work and don't have the skills or aptitudes to spend weeks playing soccer or music with their kids. If someone starts a summer camp or a rock band camp as a way to make a living while providing this service to people eager to pay for it, I can't see too much wrong with it.
It's certainly a shame that not every kid has the opportunity to spend their free time having fun and trying out new activities but that's a whole other issue. In general, I think I'm a bit jealous that even as an adult I don't have the opportunity to have someone "coach" a group of other music enthusiasts past the pitfalls of trying to write and perform music.
I'm pretty sure that if you never expose kids to musical instruments, their likelihood of becoming rock stars is much lower.
Classical education was created to produce worker drones for the industry. There is nothing in classical education that would help you become a rock star, except perhaps the pent up anger and frustration.
There are also plenty of example of people who are famous in their job of having started really young. It's probably not the only way, but it helps - and in some areas it might be the only way.
Finally, the point is not that the kids should become actual rock stars later on, but that they learn to lose inhibition, be creative, and have fun (at least that's what I would hope for when signing up my kids).
Classical education was created to produce worker drones for the industry. There is nothing in classical education that would help you become a rock star, except perhaps the pent up anger and frustration.
There are also plenty of example of people who are famous in their job of having started really young. It's probably not the only way, but it helps - and in some areas it might be the only way.
Finally, the point is not that the kids should become actual rock stars later on, but that they learn to lose inhibition, be creative, and have fun (at least that's what I would hope for when signing up my kids).
On the other hand, sociometric status can significantly increase subjective well-being, and playing in a cool band is one of the most effective ways to gain status for kids and teenagers.
Playing music isn't about becoming a rock star, a bit like a startup shouldn't be about becoming the next WhatsApp.
Being able / confident enough to pick up a guitar and sing at a campfire is a very realistic and rewarding goal.
Being able / confident enough to pick up a guitar and sing at a campfire is a very realistic and rewarding goal.
Since when is music not part of a classical education?
This seems like a great way to cultivate a life-long creative understanding of music - "if you can make interesting noise to a beat, that's music, and the rest is just details and practice".