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When things like these get posted to HN, there is a plot twist... Always a plot twist.
What is this doing on HN? On top of everything, there's a barely-veiled cash grab at the bottom:
> Oh, you want to participate and earn $100,000? You better give me money to access the criteria. Such a small price to pay for such a big reward!
And the audacity to pretend - while asking the world to find you your rich, polygamous, prestige expert husband - that it's because you don't want to publicly share your preferences for physical appearances?
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And I'll just throw in this requirement:
> who’s fully self accepting...
Juxtaposed against the very next paragraph about herself:
> It doesn’t feel sexy to go on a date where he automatically views me as a catch.
> Oh, you want to participate and earn $100,000? You better give me money to access the criteria. Such a small price to pay for such a big reward!
And the audacity to pretend - while asking the world to find you your rich, polygamous, prestige expert husband - that it's because you don't want to publicly share your preferences for physical appearances?
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And I'll just throw in this requirement:
> who’s fully self accepting...
Juxtaposed against the very next paragraph about herself:
> It doesn’t feel sexy to go on a date where he automatically views me as a catch.
"Natural" challenges such as human flight to Mars or bridging the gap between Morocco and Spain seem easier to me than running a matchmaking service to very opinionated people.
At least Mars is quite reliable at the "orbiting along a well-known trajectory" thing, and you can lean on that.
At least Mars is quite reliable at the "orbiting along a well-known trajectory" thing, and you can lean on that.
Sheesh, $100k? I've had worse consulting gigs, let's see here...
> [...] who’s in a similar enough wealth tier to me that I don’t have to financially support him, who wants kids, and who’s fully self accepting.
...nevermind. I'm not playing wingman for socially awkward rich natalists.
> [...] who’s in a similar enough wealth tier to me that I don’t have to financially support him, who wants kids, and who’s fully self accepting.
...nevermind. I'm not playing wingman for socially awkward rich natalists.
> who’s in a similar enough wealth tier to me
I've seen this be a problem with well-off female friends again and again.
It's always a status issue when I've seen it (the women sees herself as high status and she wants a high status man).
Wanting someone well-off (more than say a million or two) really limits your dates, and is a problematic selection filter (you're chasing the same guys everyone else is chasing which leads to horrible selection biases). Specifically the men that meet the filter often have negative learned traits if they have plenty of women chasing them.
> that I don’t have to financially support him
An excuse. Plenty of men don't worry about that issue when looking for a woman. Independence is a nice-to-have .
I often ask single friends what their must-haves are in a date. The replies always worry me. Then you see them successfully find someone that doesn't fit their requirements (maybe flexibility is a selection bias for successfully relationships?)
Why is it so hard to learn meta-skills?
I don't hang around with enough wealthy guys to notice any pattern in them. The women I'm talking with this pattern are high professional income levels rather than deeply wealthy (I don't hang with them either).
People have such strange wants - money does matter but there's many other traits that matter more.
I've seen this be a problem with well-off female friends again and again.
It's always a status issue when I've seen it (the women sees herself as high status and she wants a high status man).
Wanting someone well-off (more than say a million or two) really limits your dates, and is a problematic selection filter (you're chasing the same guys everyone else is chasing which leads to horrible selection biases). Specifically the men that meet the filter often have negative learned traits if they have plenty of women chasing them.
> that I don’t have to financially support him
An excuse. Plenty of men don't worry about that issue when looking for a woman. Independence is a nice-to-have .
I often ask single friends what their must-haves are in a date. The replies always worry me. Then you see them successfully find someone that doesn't fit their requirements (maybe flexibility is a selection bias for successfully relationships?)
Why is it so hard to learn meta-skills?
I don't hang around with enough wealthy guys to notice any pattern in them. The women I'm talking with this pattern are high professional income levels rather than deeply wealthy (I don't hang with them either).
People have such strange wants - money does matter but there's many other traits that matter more.