“I Have a Secret. My Father Is Steve Jobs”(vanityfair.com)
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“I Have a Secret. My Father Is Steve Jobs”
https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2018/08/lisa-brennan-jobs-small-fry-steve-jobs-daughter/amp
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I'm not saying he wasn't an awful father, but he actually did leave her a multi-million dollar inheritance according to Wikipedia
>I'm not saying he wasn't an awful father, but he actually did leave her a multi-million dollar inheritance according to Wikipedia
He was not only an awful father, he was an awful person.
He was not only an awful father, he was an awful person.
It's not so black and white.
He was erratic. Some things Jobs did were wonderful. In this situation I could see him detesting the way his relationships were poisoned with money and not wanting his daughter to rest on her laurels waiting for a payday.
He was erratic. Some things Jobs did were wonderful. In this situation I could see him detesting the way his relationships were poisoned with money and not wanting his daughter to rest on her laurels waiting for a payday.
Maybe he could have elaborated on that to his own daughter. Instead of requiring her to infer that this was the meaning.
A search for 'nice things Steve Jobs did' is damning: watch how hard journalists struggle to find some small anecdotes of kindness to say about him. 'He came out and helped us fix my car in the driveway.' 'He gave his team inspiring speeches.' 'He protected the resources he needed from interdepartmental criticism.'
It's clear that he was a dickhead to anyone he could get away with it to, while expressing the infrequent, but still present, in group-support, and the hyperbolic in-group praise, typical of a narcissist.
He even died due to his own hubris.
It's clear that he was a dickhead to anyone he could get away with it to, while expressing the infrequent, but still present, in group-support, and the hyperbolic in-group praise, typical of a narcissist.
He even died due to his own hubris.
> In this situation I could see him detesting the way his relationships were poisoned with money and not wanting his daughter to rest on her laurels waiting for a payday.
That's your takeaway from this?
That's your takeaway from this?
> “You’re not getting anything,” he said. “You understand?
> Nothing. You’re getting nothing.” Did he mean about the
> car, something else, bigger? I didn’t know. His voice
> hurt—sharp, in my chest.It sort of confirmed other things I've read; Jobs was really a dick at times.
My suspicion is that it's nearly impossible to find anybody with the kind of business success Jobs had that ISN'T a dick at least a good chunk of the time.
Gates was famously so, at least when he was leading MSFT. Ballmer, moreso. Ellison is a well known asshole. Etc.
It's especially true of founders, I reckon, because through grit and luck they find themselves atop a large heap of money and power, and it's very easy to forget how much of their success was due to luck -- and very easy to believe that it was all due to how exceptional and smart and visionary they were, or whatever.
So, yeah, probably a dick. Probably not somebody with a lot of close friends. I mean, would YOU be friends with a guy who was denying his own child like that?
Gates was famously so, at least when he was leading MSFT. Ballmer, moreso. Ellison is a well known asshole. Etc.
It's especially true of founders, I reckon, because through grit and luck they find themselves atop a large heap of money and power, and it's very easy to forget how much of their success was due to luck -- and very easy to believe that it was all due to how exceptional and smart and visionary they were, or whatever.
So, yeah, probably a dick. Probably not somebody with a lot of close friends. I mean, would YOU be friends with a guy who was denying his own child like that?
Sadly, your suspicion seems to be supported by even more anecdotal evidence.
From the Economist: "While [Elon Musk danced] with his first wife on their wedding day, he told her, “I am the alpha in this relationship.” [1]
[1] https://www.economist.com/business-books-quarterly/2015/07/0...
From the Economist: "While [Elon Musk danced] with his first wife on their wedding day, he told her, “I am the alpha in this relationship.” [1]
[1] https://www.economist.com/business-books-quarterly/2015/07/0...
Being a dick in a professional setting is quite different from being it in a personal setting. I think it is okay to be ruthless in business, on the other hand, with your own daughter, that is something different.
I scarcely imagine that a temperate man shows up to work and dials up the asshole to be successful, then dials it back down when he gets home. Moreso, I would imagine your personality follows you where you go, and sometimes by coincidence your personality is good for business.
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From what I’ve read, and even the biography, he was a dick pretty much all the time. But the brilliance that was (rightly or wrongly, I pass no judgement other than I lean towards the former) assigned to him meant people ignored it for the most part. Fascinating really.
As a father of a little girl, I cannot fathom denying my daughter.
Jobs sucked.
Jobs sucked.
He told her to her face she wasn’t his daughter. He was an awful person to her.
Jobs was stunningly cruel to his daughter.
That post seems like it kinda died on the vine. This one seems like it's getting a lot more traction.
He was a person still in the process of evolving himself. He still had many flaws that he was unable to correct before he died. But from what I could tell he was making progress on those aspects right up until his death. Unfortunate. Still, he led a pretty good life everything considered.
What a butt..
All the money in the world couldn't save him... (that and quack remedies)
Empty man consumed by his own emptiness, leaves shiny baubles behind.