I have to sadly agree. An earlier article talking about the erosion of privacy was met with more "what's the big deal" commenting than I am comfortable with in an environment such as HN. For me, it illustrated a direction in technology workers' attitudes that is frightening. I expected better.
People -- and I will call out my fellow Americans in this -- don't seem to really care until it directly affects them and in significantly adverse ways. Up until that point, the attitude seems to be "I can still get by" and by the time that's not true, it's generations too late. But, hey, as long as you got yours, why should you care about your neighbor, right?
I had the same thought -- " yet another writing by someone who's advice is 'do what I did' without any consideration beyond their own limited experience". This is especially frustrating when it comes from someone 20, 30, 40 years younger who doesn't have the life experience, much less can speak to your own life and how it should be managed. It worked for you, great, but don't assume to proselytize as if you're spouting truth.
I'm a big supporter of Mozilla and everything they do and stand for, but I think the way this is explained leaves people (including myself) thinking "why would I want to do that?" The promotional video uses a lot of flowery words, but I'm missing the message, so I imagine the average user would as well.
For me, "control your data" means I own it, I own the only instance of it, I know everything about how it's being used and by whom because I've granted those specific uses (but not through policy notices and disclosures), and can revoke its use at any time. Kind of like how Amazon, Google, etc, treat your purchases.
I'll use them for data passing within a class. The calling method needs multiple values of differing types and I can't personally justify creating a class just to encapsulate those values for a call or two. So I tuple. But that tuple stays within that class and is never exposed or stored.
I was playing with it for a bit and came across a few issues, but can't seem to find a support or contact link. Where would you like such information sent?
I've yet to realize a benefit from using a realtor, three houses in. My last transaction was done without realtors. Both parties did their research, we ensured all legalities were covered, and the whole thing was done for $30k less than using realtors. The first house incurred the penalty of using a realtor who used salesmanship to trick a couple of first-time kids. I don't trust them any further than I trust car salesmen.
As long as both parties are responsible and do their homework, I don't see any reason to use a realtor. In fact, if you do then that means there are two more parties you have to trust on responsibility.
It does help; thank you for the peek behind the curtain. I've always avoided outgoing, extroverted women because I thought that the intro/extro combination could never possibly work. I'm not about to jump up in front of such a woman today and announce my presence, but I do like it when my understandings are corrected and my world is opened.
And a hearty congratulations on passing the 20-year mark! Seriously, in today's climate, I count that as a huge win. With you being an (apparently) attractive extrovert who "holds court" (laughed out loud at that one), your options are very open. Thanks for helping to give us guys a good name by staying loyal and loving to your wife. If she doesn't outright say it to you, she's likely very thankful that you choose her on a daily basis, given the circumstance.
Now, if your wife has a 40-year-old twin sister...
Like the OP, I find myself often wondering how people met, how they clicked, how they keep it going. With you describing your wife as very introverted, fearing interaction with new people (I could describe myself the same way) and describing yourself as an extrovert, how did you two meet, click, make it work? I find that with me being like your wife in that regard, I've had an extremely difficult time even meeting someone, much less progressing into a relationship.
For the last 8 or so years, the jobs have been C#/.Net. Before that, Delphi. Before that, C and C++ (quite a while ago). There's also been a touch of Ruby, a couple days of PHP, and an odd smattering of x86 assembly.
I guess what I meant is I see a lot of guys in the group who are younger (20-25) with more senior guys trying to "form" them into what they feel is a "good" developer. I've been around long enough to have developed my own ideas, and while I'm always open to having my views influenced and changed over time, I'm not going to sit down and have someone tell me "this is what you need to do to be good like me".
Your note about building stuff on your own is something I constantly do. I try to keep at least a couple projects going at home for the purpose of practice and incorporation of advancing technology. I don't have my finger on the pulse of everything, but I'm by no means being left behind.
A desire for entrepreneurship? Definitely. But I don't have any side projects or ideas that I feel would be unique enough or adopted well enough in an open market. They're great toys for me, but my girlfriend just doesn't understand them. :)
And a big NO to management. I love coding. I want to die while refactoring. Or die while coding, then come back from the grave to refactor later.
I feared that that may be the fact of the matter. Not that I need sexy in my daily life, but something that offered the chance to grow would be nice. That's not been an easy find in the larger companies.
I'm not one to put stock into the myriad of psychological conditions that people seem to carry around like badges ("Look at me, I'm ADD!"), so I followed your link with a dismissal at the ready. Then I read something in there that was close to my own words..."Proof of success is dismissed as luck"...I about choked!
Not that I'm ready to go around saying "I have a disorder, yay!", but it was certainly an interesting concept to be introduced to.
And before I get angry comments about my ADD comment, my son has been diagnosed ADD, so I make that snide remark knowing full-well what his life is like.
I don't think you understand the problem. I suffer from the same social problems that the OP does and if it were as simple as just saying something intelligent or funny, we would do it. But it's not that simple; you can't think of anything to say.
Besides, have you ever heard someone try to be funny? It's not funny.
People -- and I will call out my fellow Americans in this -- don't seem to really care until it directly affects them and in significantly adverse ways. Up until that point, the attitude seems to be "I can still get by" and by the time that's not true, it's generations too late. But, hey, as long as you got yours, why should you care about your neighbor, right?