Lecturer in Cybersecurity. I started to believe in God in my late teens, 40 years ago. I was at a party and a friend told me he had become a Christian. As I slept on a sofa in the party house I prayed, “Jesus, if you are out there, will you come into my life”.
Christian belief tends to follow by being told about God through colleagues, friends and family. Becoming a follower follows study of the Scriptures and disciplines such as prayer.
Some HNers may see belief as less intelligent. At 54 I can guarantee there are men and woman out there more intelligent than yourself who believe in God. My most intelligent, unbelieving Professor friend, would agree with me on this point.
My son had a little toy called Charlie when he was a baby which he loved deeply. AI no more has feelings than the idea Charlie came to life and played with the other toys when we left the room.
I enjoyed reading your thoughts on thinking and rumination. I fall prey to circular thinking myself. This can unsettle my wife at times as she is not this way inclined. I can incite worry, while I move on and probably forget about the very concerns I have been raising.
I have been learning to quieten my ruminations by keeping a journal. This stops all the meanderings escaping. A kind of triage so to speak, where important thoughts get revisited and the rest stay in a journal no one will read.
I made the mistake of promoting my sideline on online groups 20 years ago. Some nasty responses. One random guy however told me to keep going and ignore the criticism. Groups are full of critics who couldn't make porridge let alone a product.
What got me started was sending out letters to clients, in my case schools. Old school I know. I have always worked full time. The sideline has made several hundred thousand dollars over the last 20 years.
Think about how companies advertise and copy with what you can afford.
Well said...I have discovered the same in my own marriage of thirty years. I would add that even bringing a good solution in a relationship can go unheard, especially if the motivation is to be the fixer, and to be honest make your own life easier by silencing the other's point of frustration.
I think a better question may be, how do I make the world a better place? This means anyone, doing any work, can make a contribution and find value in their work (assuming their work is not illegal or toxic).
The Bible. Through it, I see the connection from the fall of man, the redemption of the cross and the future return of the King to restore all things. I also see connection from wisdom shared 2-3 thousand years ago through the Psalms and Proverbs. This has rewired my understanding of how ancient men and women were pretty awesome and got me over chronological snobbery.
I am in my 50s and have learned that learning how to deal with unknowns is often more important than knowing.
For example, I do know what triggers some of the negative thoughts that come into my head which used to cause me stress. I now have my own way to respond to these thoughts and they do not cause me stress. Through time the response becomes automatic.
I recommend picking a healthy response and letting this be the solution.
I appreciate your insight. I have done this and that and am also most pleased with my shed.
I am a christian and do believe in heaven. I'm going to say a prayer now in my little office and ask that you find your way there, whether today or another day. God bless.
I have been running a one-man sideline Saas for 18 years. I have found that most customers have no concept of what the company looks like behind a Saas product.
The only time I had the, "What happens if you get knocked down by a bus?" comment, was for a big bespoke contract, which I got.
I have never aimed to hoodwink anyone. I have just been surprised to learn in the average person's mind Saas = company of many people. One client of 10 years was shocked when I told him by email that I was in my 50s and a company of one.
Life is not a formula. There is a squirrel climbing a tree in my garden as I look out the window. I could dedicate the rest of my life to squirrel study and still not know everything about squirrels.
Life is spiritual and physical. I trust in the ancient wisdom of the Bible which will be here after you and I, to understand life's meaning. I teach Tech and love learning. I find meaning through my faith and knowledge through my learning.
I am 53 and have had a sideline for 18 years which makes about a 1/4 of an average salary.
I believe people are meant to have one job, unless poverty or circumstance is driving their financial needs.
If your sideline is not making money consider dropping it.
When you enjoy something like programming, and people giving you positive feedback, you don't sometimes consider the bigger questions. Am I happy? What am I doing with my life and relationships?
A sideline worked for me as it has made hundreds of thousands and changed my family's life.
If yours is a hobby, consider stopping it, and see if it comes back to you down the line.
This is not a book recommend, but what an average day looks like in my life, having lost about 40kg over a several year period and maintained the same weight for five years.
I walk at least 2-3 miles everyday.
* Breakfast: 60g porridge oats - 240g with skimmed milk, cut up pear and honey, coffee
* Mid morning: flavoured Greek yoghurt, coffee
* Lunch: Wrap with cut up chicken breast, cottage cheese, celery, then roughly 100 calories of chocolate, coffee
* Mid afternoon: egg, coffee
* Dinner: Anything really. Just learn what average portions look like. Diluted juice, coffee
* I don't eat after dinner until breakfast
* I eat a lot of ice cream at the weekend
My advice, make a time machine and travel back 20 years and take your side projects with you. I made a thing 18 years ago that has been making money ever since. If I made it now I would be like an apple in a barrel of apples.
If it's a business you are looking to build then learn to do business. This was my problem and why I made a 6 figure sum over 18 years and not 7.
I am a lecturer, despite having being a very immature teen who left school with practically no qualifications. I was able to go back and fix what I had broken. Therefore, I understand the privilege university provides to those who can afford it or live in wealthy enough countries who provide it for free.
There are useless programmers, most are ok, and some great. This is true of students and lecturers. A job or education provides a platform for a person. What a person does with this opportunity is up to every individual.
I work my way through the Lord’s Prayer every morning. I pause after each line and then pray with words.
I started this pattern a number of years ago as I could not concentrate during silence and I wrestled with intrusive thoughts.
This has been life changing. I believe I have become more disciplined in other areas of life and health as a result.