Time. That is what is wrong with her....or lacking of it. Women has very limited time for child bearing compare to men. Give and take is around 20-25 years. Anything beyond that will be very difficult even if you factor in modern medicine. Risk of deffective birth is also very high for late age pregnancy. Being nice to people telling is ok is not really good in her scenario.
Go back study (in area ultra domninated by men). Join church. Change your job. Move to another country. The idea here is you need to change your social circle. The one you are in definitely not conducive to you in the romance area. You likely have very high expectation. You do need to change it to lower your expectation, but doing it on your own based on your current situation will be next to impossible. Do the changes I suggest above, the rest will take care itself.
Depends at what stage. Current abortion friendly states do allow killing unborn babies at 7-9mths pregnacies. They follow your definition of fetus isnt people even though these "fetus" can survive even back 100 years ago without modern healthcare interventions. With modern healthcare, the number can dip as low as 4-5mths. Essentially you are ok with exterminating babies (the moment this fetus pull out of the world they are babies and can survive and actually some do cry but executed in abortion clinics). Not every pregnacies are at the first few weeks of pregnacies. Those if you choose to consider as non people fetus, a lot will agree. Unfortunately majority of pregnancies are terminated in the range of 4-9mths. I suggest you do a bit of research a dark market exist of those fetus organic materials that these clinics are engaged in. Think for a second, these clinics are not free to operate. The people coming in for the service isnt paying exorbitant fees like those in typical hospitals charging patients or insurance. Something else must befunding these...if you say tax, then isnt it weird, people getting forced to pay for others misadventure? The ruling is exactly that. Some states that are pro can go on as usual. Some states that are not pro, can stop funding it. At the end of day each states behavior dictate by the people votes. Why a small minority groups insist everyone else to food their bills?
Work in HR. Have been in this industry for decades. There is at least half of companies I dealt with will not hire those from gambling-type of industries (this include crypto). Moral has nothing to do with it. It reflects on people who work there with a specific type of behavior. Exception do given on those working for short stints like less than a year. But the longer one is in that kind of industry the stronger their "specific behaviors" ingrained in them and hence many employers exclude them from being hired. This is more of oral things and wont appear in any emails or paper trails.