This might help https://youtu.be/6KGYCU_INVI?si=1Ds8Rez8vNbZAyV5, it has more to do with your perception, expectations, and the story you tell yourself rather than an actual state of “loneliness”.
You are going through a normal phase of growth, and need to be able to sit with discomfort and question it. You will likely find yourself cherishing these moments when you are older.
It’s pretty easy to change jobs on an H-1B if you are high skill. I love hearing folks, who aren’t on an H-1B, tell me things like this. Or that I’m paid less when I’m paid more.
I know these abuses happen, no system is perfect. But I feel the bias in the US against H-1Bs from random citizens not from employers. And the government today has quite strong bias against immigrants.
This is my problem with design documents. If your stakeholders already have enough trust that they ask you to go build it without writing a doc, then what value does writing a design doc have.
Many will answer that it helps them think. But why do we need a formal process to think? Thinking is a valuable skill that should be practiced all the time.
Upvotes for you. I have also worked a ton of odd jobs out of necessity. Many doing things that would frankly disgust most people, or people would say is a worker’s right violation, or is a safety violation. I enjoyed these jobs more despite the conditions.
Financially it is great, no doubt about that. Take away the money and it’s a terrible job - despite loving programming, design, and engineering. And I mean, I love design, programming, ambiguity, and the constant learning required.
My largest source of sanity in this career is to spend extra time at work doing the things that I love in my position. Ironically, I get high performance ratings because of this - but have to fight to spend my time on it.
Modern tech companies and culture suck, even the best ones that I praise. I can’t even blame anyone at this point because it is hard and I have not started a company that tries to be better. I'm not even sure I would do better, to be honest.
I worked at Facebook and the amount of ex-FBers, especially OGs, speaking out against them on LinkedIn is staggering. I’ve debated doing a livestream of reading this book from start to finish, perhaps even in one sitting, because of what is happening here.
The effect on society and the human psyche when political discussions are stripped away from forums is chilling. Internet forums and IRC channels, in their peak, welcomed discussions like these. If you didn’t like it then you don’t click on the clearly political topics. This is hurt even more by forums being turned into feeds that pander into a single category and into businesses where profit, and agreeableness, must come at all cost.
I did not do any OKRs on an infrastructure team. Qualitative results were just as valued, and we had the quantitative knobs to dial when needed thanks to excellent internal tooling and service maturity.
I found it to be the ironic part of working at one of the most data-driven companies. We didn’t do OKRs in my org despite using data to drive decisions. I much prefer this to OKR hell.
It is a judgemental piece because the writer is putting a value judgement on people who use LLMs to code and those who don't. Its right after the piece you quoted.
> please don’t take this as a judgemental piece to anyone that i am alluring to. it’s fine to not find programming enjoyable. it’s fine to just want things to work. i am just disappointed at how the ones who care appear to be an ever dying breed.
I'm not saying the author shouldn't write that, write whatever you want. But you should own what you write.
Let’s not pretend it’s just PMs. I’ve worked with PMs who fought against shipping fast but ultimately an engineering manager or engineer comes in and forces a fast ship.
This, short-term decisions win money in the short-term but businesses are always talking about retention and retention is most durable with a good product.
Now, any system I’ve seen designed around exactly once is complete garbage.