I've had near violent reactions from people when I said "I can hear you chewing." I was a mild and meek kid, and this was after they acknowledged the noise they made.
Any subconscious behavior has to be controlled with a lot of effort and focus to change.
Almost no one I have ever met has changed a subconscious behavior, just because I asked in a certain way.
Walking can be met half way, or I can adjust _my_ gait to match there's. There's no equivalent to an irritating behavior.
I've tried all kinds of approaches. The only ones that ever worked were based purely on the person communicated to, not how I communicated. (ie, the person cared)
I've had nice conversations about it, the person listened, but was only able to be reasonable quiet for a short period of time. And then simply reverted. (they didn't care)
I found the best solution was simply to face this head on and deaden my reactions to it. This reduced my reactions to a living tolerable level.
I have a close relationship with a Chinese national that is going through the US immigration process.
His view on situations like this are enlightening.
He knows the difference between true dictatorships and political wranglings in the news. No system is perfect, and bad things happen to good people every day.
In this circumstance, it looks like this person didn't follow all the appropriate rules related to the entering the US. (visa issues)
My Chinese friend does not understand why people try to break the rules, get caught, and cry foul. Your treatment in his home country would be considerably worse. He is following all the laws to get US citizenship. Should his due diligence be considered a waste of time?
I also had a relative that overstayed her visa in a foreign country and was constantly afraid of being deported. Why should the expectations of foreigners in US be different from every other country in the world?
This system was recommended to me from an old veteran manufacturing expert that was one of the consultants on an ERP implementation. The brilliance that this brought was anyone could easily pick up the inventory and restocking process. But the people that got in the way of this were people that thought it was "dumb". One person already knew all the bits and pieces and this was just extra work. (she was leaving the company in a few months...) The people that liked this idea were the new people that were replacing the older people, and people that only worked with the inventory periodically, so didn't have ingrained knowledge. (also, the part numbers were inconsistent and many other small issues that new people struggled with)
But, the grumpy and the veterans won out, because they just didn't see the value in making a change like this. sigh
According to this article, Canada rejected her entry as well. Maybe it's not just the US, but this person actually had a real issue with her visa and her travel plans were not prepared well.
"...when she reached the border [Canada], Mr Burke said the Canadian authorities denied her entry as they were concerned she may try to work illegally."
Most people I met when homeless didn't want the help the government offered. There's a direct conflict between people who lead and those that actually want to help.
Unfortunately, a lot of the homeless I knew were very proud, arrogant, angry, bitter and many other emotions that made it nearly impossible to get them to take care of themselves through any intervention.
And if people refuse to take care of themselves, they will always be in a state where they need others to step in. Once they become destructive to society, I don't think any expectation of mercy from leadership should be expected. That leads to the situations we currently see in some places today.
It's not the lack of shelter that's the issue. There's plenty of shelter and housing if you want it.
I have a friend who is a foreigner, and is in a master's CS degree program in the US. He's married to an American woman as of a few months ago.
What is the reasonable amount of time it should take for him to be able to get a green card and work here in the US?
And is there something he can do to help expedite any process(es) (maybe not a greencard?) so he can legally work and support himself and his new family?
When I see a card magic trick, for all intents and purposes it "appears" magic. Once I learn _one_ card trick, I start to realize it's not magic. Regardless if I can prove anything or not.
This same applies here with ghosts. People needed to know they _could_ be fooled, how it was done doesn't matter, because people were being scammed and were afraid of things that weren't ghosts.
Proving something is a ghost has never been done, so ghost scams is a good thing to educate people on.
You are missing a critical point. Before this, there was likely no proof that people could share or rely on to question if _any_ ghost could be an illusion.
This is very important to future critical thinking because this gave people evidence to back up being skeptical for future illusions that they can't immediately explain.
> With most Work for Hire agreements in the US, the client owns the code..
I think you have this backwards. By default the creator owns the code. (unless you agree in writing otherwise) Some exceptions I am aware of (IANAL) is if you are an employee, then the employer owns the code by default.
Under the "work for hire" clause, I think (?) that if you are commissioned for the work as an individual, you should have the copyright by default but may not have the copyright based on agreements made. But if you are commissioned as a business entity, your business entity would own the copyright. (again, unless explicitly agreed otherwise)
If someone else can chime here, as I may be wrong on this.
Yep, just came here to say this. I was going to run their maze through a photoshop filter to remove the extra garbage to see what difference it makes. (but eh, we know it would)
I wonder if there are multiple different causes. Because I have had migraines regularly since I was a little kid and sleep was the only cure. (Hours of crying until I'd pass out) But when I got to a teen I tried every pain killer I could find and finally I found that none of them helped unless I took it very early when the pain started. (Within maybe 30-40 min) And even then only ibuprofen worked. (And I have to take quite a bit) But even then the pain doesn't go away for some time. But at least it doesn't get any worse.
So I keep ibuprofen in every car, bag, and a few places around the house.
This question speaks to the biggest communications battle I have had for the past 20+ years in my career.
I have a coworker that uses his quick talking ability to manipulate, accuse and scam his way through meetings and his daily work. He is management level (so am I) and it's impossible to have reasonable discussions for many reasons.
My solution:
I graciously communicate in a professional manner, work properly with this person as a normal work flow. I listen and give my feedback and this works really well to make the day go smoothly for both of us and anyone else in the area.
After any encounters with this person, I think about what happened, I make some notes about the events (date stamp it as well) and then let it sit in my mind until the next day at a minimum.
I have found that after doing this, I realized what really happened, (if I was tricked or manipulated or not) and then I do all of my responses in email.
I do not even try to do it verbally. In fact I have told this person and upper management, that I am not comfortable talking about events _because_ I am do not have quick responses to ward off the manipulations (I don't call it this to upper management though).
I state plainly that I do not want confrontation, and I just want to do my job, and I get too emotional and can sometimes communicate poorly verbally.
This is a reasonable statement, and I no longer have to replay my conversations when things go wrong, because I do it all in writing.
This has had the side benefit of causing this bully to back down, because he has relied on hiding behind clever wording and phrasing that I could not counter. And because I am being very open about my responses, he knows he would have to do the same if we wants to respond and his true motivations and intent would be revealed.
So I am now simply happier at work. I hope this helps some.
Any subconscious behavior has to be controlled with a lot of effort and focus to change.
Almost no one I have ever met has changed a subconscious behavior, just because I asked in a certain way.
Walking can be met half way, or I can adjust _my_ gait to match there's. There's no equivalent to an irritating behavior.