Assuming this is still under development, I thought my experience might be of use.
I input The Three-Body Problem (Cixin), Sapiens (Harari), Leonardo da Vinci (Isaacson), For Whom the Bell Tolls (Hemingway), Bluebeard (Vonnegut), and On the Shortness of Life (Seneca) and received in return...children's books!
Age-gating the recommendations might be something to look into.
What about "The Design of Everyday Things" strikes you as stale? It's been a while since I've read it, but I don't remember feeling that way when I was reading it. That being said, I was just getting started, so I was doubtlessly lacking context.
Can you recommend a book akin to Desi...Things that you feel better describes "modern" design?
Having not worked on large scale systems like what I imagine they must be working with, is this really true? I would have thought that a modern framework would make things easier. I've certainly had life made easier by modern web frameworks like React and Angular, although the support timeline is more on the order of 2-3 years, rather than 20-30.
[1] https://www.wired.com/story/the-us-hitches-its-final-ride-to...