Similar to author's experience, I find increasing friction to access social media (or anything I want to restrict) is a good way to stop me fall into consume mode mindlessly.
There was a period of time in my life that I spent lots of time checking Imgur for meme and cute animal pics daily. I can just type "im" in browser address and press "enter" to consume whenever I want.
I "fixed" this addiction by removing Imgur from browser history so it would not auto-complete Imgur's URL. Since then, whenever I have urges to consume, this friction stop me from doing so. It has worked very well over the past few years.
Based on what I see on the website, I think some (if not all) of them can be done via custom key/gesture settings that supported by your mouse manufacturers (e.g. Logitech Options).
With limited knowledge about the project and the team, here are my two cents: project management.
For example, ask your team to break down the tasks and provide a schedule for each task, and try to help them follow the schedule. If a task is taking way too long, ask them to break down it again. Remember to ask them to explain why they plan it like that.
Make sure you and your team have enough communication so you all know what need to do and what NOT to do. If your teammate is doing thing that is not in the scope, discuss with them and make the decision whether to support them or ask them to follow your request.
Dose anyone has good advices to change this kind of mindset ?
It is hard for me to not be judgmental about stuff I disagree, and I can tell this attitude is causing more trouble than I would like in many different area of my life.
I use both for almost 10 years, here are my experiences:
The main advantage of IntelliJ or any other IDE by JetBrains over Emacs, is that the out of box experience IDE provided, especially from a new programmer's perspective. All they need to do to click a button, check few checkbox, then IDE will resolve it for you and tell you what happened.
But to make Emacs do any complex behaviors, you usually have to write additional codes or configurations to glue different features together. Not to mention you need to read documents and debug it when there is an error. In JetBrains IDEs those are integrated already. A context-aware error detection and code inspection is available the second you open the IDE first time. That is something default Emacs can never do.
The main advantage on Emacs over IDEs, is that you can ask Emacs to do whatever you want as long as you know how to implement it. Practically speaking, you most likely will accumulate many little functions over time that is specific designed for your workflows. That kind of customizability is something IDEs cannot provide. I do not consider myself an Emacs power user, but I still benefit form it.
Emacs is also have better text editing features in general. You can use the same features no matter what text file you are editing. That's why people want to use Emacs for everything.
In short, they are different tools, use it where it is suitable for you.
For me, I whine about how bad the editor is when I use IDE, then I complain about how bad the integration my Emacs has between multiple tools (mainly my inability to make it work).
I'm suffering from work burnout and are planning to quit my current job to pursue a more balanced, self-sustainable way working for myself. Seeing your post help me understand I'm not alone.
Another happy customer of Fastmail here, and these are my opinions why you should give it a try:
1. They often express their opinions on topics like security and privacy. Like how things impact their users, where they stand, and how they plan to do. As a user I am happy to see a company actively talk about hard topics like these.
2. While they are not the most stable software service I ever use, but they always provide timely update. They also write postmortem to explain what happened technically, what did they do, and their future plans. As a developer, I am appreciated when a software company spent extra effort to acknowledge and explain issues of their service.
3. Their business model is simple. I pay money, they provide service.
3. It is your faults that you could not provide best answer for your clients.
But I think you will agree these ideas are unrealistic.
You will find out things that you know nothing about, and that is fine. Maybe next time when you are in the situation where you have to deal with uncertainty, just admit that you will not have the best answer, but you will have a good enough answer that is based on your experience and knowledge.
Book suggestions:
1. Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
2. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
Both books teach me how to recognize those unrealistic standards I set for myself. I think they can help you too.
Not new books, just something I'm currently reading.
- Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
This book teach you about depression and how you can apply cognitive therapy techniques to help you. I'm in the second part of the book and already learn some valuable information. It seems like HN recommend this book as well [1].
- Common Sense on Mutual Funds
One of the classic investment books from John C. Bogle. In this book he talks about what he think is the better way to invest in mutual funds and why.
This is one of the reading assignment form another short book I'm reading called "If You Can" [2], which recommended by Bogleheads.
In Safari you can ask it to load certain websites with reader view automatically. If you do so, Safari will change to reader view as soon as it can render the page.
This how I deal with the annoying stuff in Medium.
There was a period of time in my life that I spent lots of time checking Imgur for meme and cute animal pics daily. I can just type "im" in browser address and press "enter" to consume whenever I want.
I "fixed" this addiction by removing Imgur from browser history so it would not auto-complete Imgur's URL. Since then, whenever I have urges to consume, this friction stop me from doing so. It has worked very well over the past few years.