Accept that you're human, accept the ebb and flow. Recognise when you're in your productive mode, use it. When you're not, don't beat yourself up, do the lighter side of what you need to do. Take your foot off the accelerator and just be. When you stop trying to control yourself like a machine, you'll start to win.
Downloaded 'cogno' (0.15.0) and 'cogno-nightly' (0.16.0-nightly) deb packages, installed and proceeded through the wizard. In both versions I couldn't select a theme, and I couldn't select a font as there wasn't an option to do that. Once I hit the 'finish' screen, I clicked 'finish' repeatedly and nothing happened. I couldn't use the terminal. Bad times. Sorry.
Trust your partner knows what they are doing. Give input but step back on decision making. Your child is going to become your entire universe, and for the first 5 months (as fare as I know- I'm a new dad too), you and your partner are the only thing that matters to them.
Give them both lots of love, pull energy from seeing your baby's little features- their delicate little hands, wisps of hair, milk drunkness, chubby cheeks!
Get skin on skin contact as soon as you can, wrap your arms around your little one- you are their protector and nothing will hurt them with you around.
Be prepared for some dark thoughts; usually centred around something/somebody hurting or taking your child away. I think this is probably normal.
Give your partner support and put little things in the calendar each week- like a TV show the three of you can watch- its making the mundane special that will keep your morale up when you're operating on 3 hours sleep.
I'm not attacking him, merely setting some of his assumptions straight.
He's assumed that the _person_ or _people_ involved with implementing any of the hundreds of features in this software set out to deliberately do it wrong or to a poor standard.
He's assumed that writing software at any level is easy and happens without compromises. Spoiler: there are always compromises, and most of the time, they're between a rock and a hard place.
Rather than put effort into fixing or attempting to correct, even on an advisory level (filing a bug report perhaps?), he's bashing the software- but its _my_ responsibility to educate him that there's another way?
He's not bringing anything to the table that's new. He's not pushing the discussion forward on how we can make software better.
I wonder how the narrative changes if he posted that he fixed just one tiny bug, or improved the app's navigation- and was able to remark that it was painful and provided a kernel of an idea for how we can improve it? Or that it was easy and he's now working all of his spare time to improving the project further?
Maybe he should start writing the 'new open-source office suite' and let us know how we could have done x, y, z features differently with his new found vast experience in writing software. Or maybe spend a million dollars and see how much software development that buys- 5, 10, 20 developers for a single year, what would this new office suite be like?
You don't get to bash for free, without someone bashing you back.
You have no idea the amount of effort, dedication or self-motivation required to produce software, therefore the discussion can never go past your personal beef with what it cannot do, versus what you feel it should be able to do.
You're bringing nothing to the table that is new or innovative to the discussion of quality in open source software, only a bash on a project that you feel should be better than it is, based on your non-existent experience of software development.
Discussing open source software isn't forbidden, but trashing the efforts of others when you're not offering to do something about it, with either effort or finance from yourself, I feel, is.
You want to see something better? Start writing it today, come back in six months and then report on how you found the experience, let's see how far you got. Perhaps you might be a little less critical of people's free, hell, even salaried, effort and time.
There's definitely something about walking a mile in another man's shoes for you to do here.
Keep a diary date and time stamped with the terrible things they do, so that when I’ve had enough I can take that to their superiors or for legal advice if needed.