I am sorry - but I dont understand why your attitude towards daily standups is so pessimitic. I do agree that what you describe can be one possible outcome of standups, but, if everyone (at least individually in their own way) is looking to ensure that the project/undertaking succeeds, then there are a whole lot of other benefits that standups do provide.
One advice to the OP - dont think of yourself a "manager". I always think of myself a "lead"er - as in "lead by example". So, anything that i ask (and consequently expect from my team) is definitely something that I would also do given the same circumstances. Going by this, the standup (as an example) is where I am the first one to share what I did yesterday, something interesting that I found out about yesterday, and what I hope to accomplish today. I add any blockers that I came to yesterday couched in the "can someone please help with this problem?". Since I open up the "discussion", its not even considered an interrogation - its just sharing my accomplishments, interesting things, etc with my peers/team mates.
One advice to the OP - dont think of yourself a "manager". I always think of myself a "lead"er - as in "lead by example". So, anything that i ask (and consequently expect from my team) is definitely something that I would also do given the same circumstances. Going by this, the standup (as an example) is where I am the first one to share what I did yesterday, something interesting that I found out about yesterday, and what I hope to accomplish today. I add any blockers that I came to yesterday couched in the "can someone please help with this problem?". Since I open up the "discussion", its not even considered an interrogation - its just sharing my accomplishments, interesting things, etc with my peers/team mates.