They’re different. Columbus pizzas aren’t as dry in the crusts. Chicago tavern cut crusty edges crumble in one’s mouth. I prefer Columbus’ style, and I think it would do well in Chicago.
This sounds like a fucking toxic environment, and the "rockstars" don't know as much as they claim. Arrogance is often a shield for incompetence. I would recommend GTFO and finding somewhere where people are interested in growing with each other.
What Julie is doing is not attacking your way of, but rather showing her point of view on various things that occur within the tech community that has stood in her way.
That being said, when people are drinking heavily they are more likely to act in an irrational manner. This could lead to situations that would, in fact, be unsafe.
Sexism, Racism, etc. are characterized by the systematic and societal nature to the discrimination. It would not be sexist to have a women only list, because they do not systematically discriminate against men in society. A men only list would be, because there is systematic discrimination against women, even if the members of the list were themselves not being discriminatory.