The reason these companies deliver to an address is because historically, that is the most convenient way for them to get your package to you.
Now it would be more convenient for you (and less so for them, given the amount of effort that goes into route planning) to deliver to wherever you are.
A truck would hardly 'chase you around', but might follow you until you've parked, and give the package to you then.
I'd say the service places an unreasonable expectation on the shipping company, rather than on the consumer.
If the issue is someone knowing your whereabouts during the day, hopefully you consider it pretty unsettling that everyone who knows your address can be reasonably certain where you are between 6 PM and 7 AM.
That being said, I can see being uncomfortable with them having access to your trunk.
The examples you've provided cannot be immediately distinguished just from talking to a person.
Additionally, these are two traits that are very identifiable - they're broad definitions that only separate people into two groups. Young implies younger than the OP (the other option being old), female is one of two groups the vast majority of the population fits into.
The reason these companies deliver to an address is because historically, that is the most convenient way for them to get your package to you.
Now it would be more convenient for you (and less so for them, given the amount of effort that goes into route planning) to deliver to wherever you are.
A truck would hardly 'chase you around', but might follow you until you've parked, and give the package to you then.
I'd say the service places an unreasonable expectation on the shipping company, rather than on the consumer.