In the long run marriage should be a last resort. The vector from mama's vagina to the pine box may not be straight but it IS very short. Heaven is a fantasy so do your best to live peacefully and passionately.
Marriage contains a bit of wonder surrounded by pitfalls aplenty. It is best engaged in by the simplistic and rigid.
There will be countless others to fill the positions of the broken, lazy, despondent, and worthless who've tottered on to other production facilities.
Since when has this level of human deserved even a cursory notice, much less an in-depth ethical analysis of how they labor?