Yes, All Women – Excerpts from my adult life(michaela.io)
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Yes, All Women – Excerpts from my adult life
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I wish more girls would tell their male friends about indicents like these. Reading about it on a blog does help, but hearing stories from people close to me (several of them) was very enlightening. It's easy to dismiss people on the internet as a group of vocal outliers.
"Yes, all women" what? Have these experiences?
I expect you're about to get downvoted into oblivion, but I'll answer:
Yes, these experiences are not uncommon for women. It's worth noting that men can also be the victims of similar situations, but they happen disproportionally to women.
Yes, these experiences are not uncommon for women. It's worth noting that men can also be the victims of similar situations, but they happen disproportionally to women.
Not sure on the etymology, but #YesAllWomen is a trending hashtag in the wake of the recent—apparently sexually-motivated—mass murder in California.
First off, all these things are terrible and no woman deserves to be treated like this. But the last part of #5 really has me questioning the validity of the author.
"A coworker invites me to his home under the premise of getting a few people together. When I arrive, there is no one else there. We watch TV and I go to retrieve my things to leave which are in his bedroom. His 6'4" frame blocks the door. I tell him I don't think it's a good idea for us to date. He sits on his bed, pulls me onto his lap, and sloppily puts his tongue in my mouth. He follows me home every day for four months “to hang out”. He makes me responsible for his crippling insecurity. He tells me I need to tell others we are in a relationship. He tells our boss. I resign myself and tell my friends. We live together for four years."
After all this, you lived with the guy for four years?
"A coworker invites me to his home under the premise of getting a few people together. When I arrive, there is no one else there. We watch TV and I go to retrieve my things to leave which are in his bedroom. His 6'4" frame blocks the door. I tell him I don't think it's a good idea for us to date. He sits on his bed, pulls me onto his lap, and sloppily puts his tongue in my mouth. He follows me home every day for four months “to hang out”. He makes me responsible for his crippling insecurity. He tells me I need to tell others we are in a relationship. He tells our boss. I resign myself and tell my friends. We live together for four years."
After all this, you lived with the guy for four years?
Every once in a while this subject comes up with female friends of mine, and every time I'm shocked by the stories.
And then I'm shocked even more by the fact that I am generally unaware of all this, and by the fact that they don't usually tell me these things because they're 'used' to it and they don't want people to think they're whining.
And then I'm shocked even more by the fact that I am generally unaware of all this, and by the fact that they don't usually tell me these things because they're 'used' to it and they don't want people to think they're whining.
excuse me, but what is this exactly?
Did all of these happen to her? And are they typical of an adult woman in the corporate world?
Where does the author live?
I was curious too because all those incidents made it sound like she is from the poorest parts of India or Pakistan (no offence to people from those countries in general but it can be pretty brutal for women in some regions).
Then I checked out her website's "About" page and she was born in Austin, grew up in Seattle, and currently a freelance web developer based out of Brooklyn, New York.
So, yeah.
Then I checked out her website's "About" page and she was born in Austin, grew up in Seattle, and currently a freelance web developer based out of Brooklyn, New York.
So, yeah.
This post was killed by user flags.
No matter how many time I read things like this (or hear about it from personal friends), I'm always stunned the next time. And one thing in particular bothers me, besides the obvious: I'm not aware of any of the guys /I/ know acting this way. But statistically, I know they must. (I'm not limiting the sample to people I'm close friends with, so it's not the magical aura of civilizing power that I exude that makes those around me acting like decent human beings.) That leaves only the possibility that when it happens, I simply don't notice. Yikes.