HN Help: Mom wants to censor my blog posts; what should I do?
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First off you'll most likely have to capitulate. If your using an internet connection you don't pay for then you have to allow the person that does pay for it to decide how it is used, ultimately it's their responsibility.
You don't say why she wants you to change the posts, but she obviously doesn't agree with what you're posting.
Perhaps you've given away more information about yourself or your family than she is happy with being available to the internet at large, which is perfectly reasonable.
If she is unhappy with the language you are using, such as swearing or vulgar slang, then maybe you can reach a compromise to rewrite the paragraphs with cleaner text. There are no good points that can't be made without vulgarity.
If it's that she doesn't agree with your opinions then you're probably going to have to sit on them. I'm guessing you're still early to mid teens and unfortunately, for a while yet, your parents are still responsible for you, and your actions and opinions still reflect upon them and how the rest of your family and their friends see them. Even if you don't agree with them, until you're responsible for yourself (i.e. paying the bills) it's a harsh truth that you might have to bite your lip to maintain family harmony.
In conclusion you most likely have to play by her rules, and the only option is to try to calmly reason your case with her and hope to find a happy compromise.
If you really feel like what you have to blog about HAS to be said, then you'll have to sneak out and use an internet cafe or other public connection, but you'd better be certain you've got unshakeable right on your side because sneaking and lying invariably gets found out and there's always a price.
You don't say why she wants you to change the posts, but she obviously doesn't agree with what you're posting.
Perhaps you've given away more information about yourself or your family than she is happy with being available to the internet at large, which is perfectly reasonable.
If she is unhappy with the language you are using, such as swearing or vulgar slang, then maybe you can reach a compromise to rewrite the paragraphs with cleaner text. There are no good points that can't be made without vulgarity.
If it's that she doesn't agree with your opinions then you're probably going to have to sit on them. I'm guessing you're still early to mid teens and unfortunately, for a while yet, your parents are still responsible for you, and your actions and opinions still reflect upon them and how the rest of your family and their friends see them. Even if you don't agree with them, until you're responsible for yourself (i.e. paying the bills) it's a harsh truth that you might have to bite your lip to maintain family harmony.
In conclusion you most likely have to play by her rules, and the only option is to try to calmly reason your case with her and hope to find a happy compromise.
If you really feel like what you have to blog about HAS to be said, then you'll have to sneak out and use an internet cafe or other public connection, but you'd better be certain you've got unshakeable right on your side because sneaking and lying invariably gets found out and there's always a price.
It looks like you are using _her_ internet access, or at the very least living at her place?
In that case, there's not much you can do since she's technically the owner of the place and should rightly be able to dictate the terms of usage of her house for whatever reason (whether or not they make sense).
Once you are able to afford your own place / internet connection, you're pretty much free to do whatever the hell you want.
In that case, there's not much you can do since she's technically the owner of the place and should rightly be able to dictate the terms of usage of her house for whatever reason (whether or not they make sense).
Once you are able to afford your own place / internet connection, you're pretty much free to do whatever the hell you want.
Go with option 1. If you don't, you lose internet access, which means you won't be able to blog at all. Bide time until the day comes when you can make your own decisions.
Before that though, do whatever you can to talk her out of it. Debate about it. Try to compromise. Best of luck!
Before that though, do whatever you can to talk her out of it. Debate about it. Try to compromise. Best of luck!
Do a completely anonymous blog, blog about things that are in the general interest.
how old are you?
1)Remove certain paragraphs of my previous blog posts and run all new posts by my mom before posting, or
2)Loose all of my freedoms I have earned during my childhood (Including confiscation of my house key, grounding, internet access and access to mobile devices, among other things)
What should I do? Should I refuse to censor my posts on principal, or should I give in and agree?