Chances are, the content creator blacklisted you on his channel. That way your comments are shadow banned forever. You can type all you like, noone will see it.
Ask your wife if she wants a miserable or a happy husband. I moved for my wife and I didn't regret it. She is willing to move for me too, if it ever comes to that.
But most IT jobs are remote now anyway. Look for those opportunities. Don't be scare.
Apply on LinkedIn, get a job. Make sure you have a photo. We don't do the whole 'no photo on cv' thing here.
If you want a boost, check out the Finland IT program. They pretty much want a bunch of developers and IT people to move there, and it's an official govt. program. If you want, you can get citizenship in a couple years and become an EU citizen