What it cost doesn't actually say what it cost. I wonder what models they used. Napkin math of Opus for everything (probably not true) with no caching suggests $67,000.
And then you end up raising your grandkids instead of the kids you gave birth to. It's not something that comes without cost. And what if you don't particularly trust your parents to raise kids? I suppose you would have no idea whether you did or not, because they would not have parented you...
I just want to say that I'm in a similar position to you. 32 and divorced my wife a couple of months ago. We had gotten together at 18--I had lived with her my entire adult life, excepting college. Still not completely sure it was the right decision, but I had nagging unhappiness in the relationship that I couldn't seem to solve, even with personal and couple's therapy. I have to remind myself how lonely I felt in my marriage sometimes... solitude can be better than a feeling of rejection or alienation.
This is just to say... it sucks. It's really hard. It seems to get a little bit better over time, but at least right now, I still find it really hard.
Some things that help:
1. Claiming the space you live in. Nest. Get some art you like. Put up photos that remind you of the significant relationships you still have, that remind you of good times with others.
2. Exercise. Whenever I'm having a particularly hard day, exercise is a huge reprieve for me. It saps whatever anxious energy I have and channels it into the movement and effort.
3. Observing yourself, the thoughts that crop up to you. "Oh, I'm having thought XXX again. I'm going to put that down for now." The more times you do it, the more it will occur to you that you can. Focus in on your senses, how your body feels. Often, when my mind is anxious or lonely, my body is feeling fine, and I can take some comfort in that.
4. Plans. Make plans with others. Lean into your friendships. Reach out to people more frequently. And, importantly LEAN INTO VULNERABILITY! If you're a man, like me, you might have put a lot of your "intimacy" eggs into one basket--your partner. Try to build these kinds of relationships with others. It won't always work, sometimes you'll face implicit or explicit rejection, but when it does, you'll find your friendships deepen. A lot more people are looking for this than you might expect.
5. Creative and emotional outlets (related). Journaling helps to ground, and somehow the act of writing to myself makes me feel less alone. Poetry and music have been great for expressing some of the pain. The act of creating can be very satisfying, and it's a solitary activity, for the most part.
6. Do nice things for yourself. Keep your place looking nice. Buy yourself things you might want. When you cook dinner, put out a place mat and eat at the table and light a candle--do things you would have done while you were partnered. Treat yourself like you're your own partner.
7. Read things that keep your mind engaged. I don't know about you, but one of the worst things about being alone for me is a tendency to ruminate when my mind isn't busy. Go over regrets, what I could have done differently, whether I made the right decision. One of the best ways to avoid this, for me, is to have books I'm reading that engage my brain when I'm not busy, in thinking over the material that I've read.
Some don'ts:
1. Rebound. I hooked up with a good friend about 2 weeks after divorcing. It got intense quickly (there had already been feelings) and then it crashed and burned (all within a month). I wasn't ready; she wasn't ready. Now we're trying to renormalize back into friendship, but it seems some damage was done. And now I'm carrying two losses in a way that's confusing and just amplifies things. That said, I had received this advice on all sides and didn't follow it... so why would I expect anyone else to? All this is to say, it's probably good to be "okay" with being alone (even if you don't want to be forever) before launching into something else.
2. Careful with substances. It's easy to get into the habit of drinking a bit every night (or at least it was for me), though tbh this had become a problem before the divorce too, since it was occupying me so much... But even in reasonable amounts, it adds up, makes your mood lower, makes the process of moving on and building a new life harder. I imagine the same applies for weed or practically anything else.
3. Social media. Looking at pictures of happy couples, seeing all the things others are doing, or brain rotting watching reels--none of these will make you feel better, but an app on your phone is super easy to reach for when you're feeling lonely as a form of dissociation.
I think it's quite common that a company has way too many things that it could work on compared to what the amount of people they should reasonably hire can get done. And working on more things actually generates more work itself. The more products you have, or the more infrastructure capabilities you build out, the more possible work you can do.
So you could work on more things with the same number of employees, make more money as a result, and either further increase the number of things you do, or if not, increase your revenue and hopefully profits per-employee.
I'm not sure that follows from this article. In fact, I think the logical conclusion of the article is that, by trying to grow (address weaknesses and turn them into strengths) you're actually creating strengths, which in turn creates a weakness.
I think it's possible to grow in positive outcomes of behaviors, but I also think this article is trying to get at something intrinsic within each one of us. Identifying where our personality quirks lead to strengths and weaknesses, and accepting that, is related but not quite the same as identifying concrete positive and negative outcomes of behavior, and trying to change our behaviors to align more to the positive outcomes.
Not sure if the link I'm trying to make here will be clear, but... I had an interesting conversation with my wife the other day. She conceives of who she is largely through the behaviors she expresses, a kind of de facto self-definition. I tend to have a self-conception that's a little bit more abstract and rooted as much in my feelings, thoughts, with some aspirational quality, that my behaviors sometimes live up to, and other times don't.
Do you think normal people (think, your average investing American) are trading based on this news? They probably shouldn't be... I would think that by far most of the trading these past few days has been institutions, so, a big transfer from some financial institutions to others?
I think this would be expected though, no? Sure, there's flight to safety, but you're also reducing exports to the US, reducing the number of dollars flowing to foreign nationals, which reduces the demand for treasury bills, which an excess of dollars would often be used to buy to have an inflation-"proof" store for your dollars without currency risk. You would also expect devaluation of the dollar from tariffs / trade-war, which I would also expect to cause selling of t-bills in favor of local currencies
You're answering a question that wasn't asked so you can bring your view on unionization into the conversation. The implicit question is whether management should, not whether they can.
I have a public transit commute, but at the end of the day it's 8 minutes of walking to the train, a transfer after 7 minutes, and then a 7 minute walk to the office from the train. Never enough unbroken time to get into a book :(. I've learned something new about public transit commuting--look for a commute with as long a single stint on the train as possible, while still trying to minimize total time.
Could they not make sure that enough of their assets are in cash-flowing assets (think, rent-yielding assets, or treasuries, or dividend-yielding stock, etc.) that need not be sold and whose cash-flow can be utilized?
As far as the change over time goes, I don't think anyone is disagreeing with you that social mobility used to be higher. I think part of the reasoning for that was an incredibly strong domestic economy compared to the rest of the world, as well as a lower baseline (strides in standard of living and pay get harder and harder to increase the further you increase them).
As far as the comparisons globally, they're ranking countries based on "education, access to technology, healthcare, social protection and employment opportunities" which has the implicit assumption baked in that those 5 metrics are proxies for social mobility. They might be, but why not actually measure the thing you care about? Social mobility to me means changing social classes based on income. Something like moving from a 25k/yr household to a 75k/yr household, or moving from a 75k/yr household to a 200k/yr household, maybe another jump up to 500k or a million/yr.
It seems to me that there is a much more equal distribution of incomes and outcomes in the countries you linked. That makes me think it would be much harder to go from being middle class to upper class in those countries than in the US, simply because almost everybody is part of the middle class. Thus, I think if you measured what most immigrants (and what I) actually care about when we hear about "social mobility," then the countries you mentioned would have great social mobility into the middle class, and basically no other social mobility.
I think it's confusing because person 1 was talking about America, person 2 was talking globally. That said, I eat dangerously close to .66 of a chicken every day.
A few cents a cup?! Where do you buy your coffee? I buy coffee at about 12 bucks a pound. A pound makes about ten carafes of 4 cups (tbh, I use the term cup loosely, because a mug for me is more like 1.5 to 2 actual measuring cups) each. I get to more like 30 to 40 cents a cup. It seems like there might be potential for major cost savings.
I'm getting shot in the foot by this right now as our team embarks on tackling some long-term tech debt.
The approach we've found that works is health checks and manually looking into cases when we think we've fixed a bug, as it will often point us to a piece of duplicated code we missed that we can wrap into the fold.
If we're producing 10x as much, why not print 10x as much money? The goods and services each dollar could buy would remain similar.