You're missing quite a bit of understanding here. First, I think the biggest concern is young men, who maybe haven't even had the chance to develop these social skills because they are born with the internet. Second, pick-up type skills (or any cold approach type activity) easily atrophy over time if not consistently employed. Shit, one year into a monogamous relationship and I suddenly get anxious at the thought of approaching strangers in a social setting, something I was quite comfortable with 13 months ago.
I'm also the complete opposite of the ADHD types who forget things, are late, miss details, etc. I'm pretty sure that happened because I subconsciously developed a whole series of tactics and systems to make life less challenging over the years. But that just added new issues around living and dying by to-do lists, becoming addicted to "accomplishment" (at any level), constantly in my head 24/7 about what I need to do next, what hasn't gotten done, how I'm going to do all the things I want to finish. Also wouldn't dream of announcing this to colleagues.
May I suggest not downvoting this into oblivion? We need to shine a light on this type of thinking, as it is representative of many others towards ADHDers (including many ADHDers themselves...). I have this wrestling match internally on the daily - "Am I being lazy right now or suffering from ADHD? Can I power through with determination and grit, or soften my approach and do an end-around using tactics learned in therapy?" Magnify that x1000000.
We've all encountered (in person or online) self-diagnosers, and even worse, those who make ADHD their entire personality, and calls for the world to change itself to make life easier for others. If that's your most frequent engagement with ADHD, I get how you could have OP's type of response.
"I am not my thoughts." Or, as I prefer, "these thoughts are not mine." Experience that over and over again and everything gets a little easier, a little clearer. That's when the detachment from thoughts begins.
> Reading the rest of the thread, you HN'ers are very blessed to be ignorant that such a program exists.
By this logic pretty much every single person in existence is "blessed to be ignorant" of the thousands (more?) of potential ailments they aren't facing right now. Seems like a silly POV.
> To picture a Chat, imagine if your group texts and your Instagram Stories met at the park, talked for hours, became best friends and fell in love. 9 months later, they gave birth to a new way of keeping in touch – one that lets you hear your friends’ voices, meet their friends, and spend less time typing. If “social messaging” were a thing, that’s what it would be.
Broadly - conversions that you can validate. It's kind of that simple. Depends on the channel, as well. For LI and FB/IG, have tight targeting, tighter tracking, and really really good creative. As long as I'm making more than I spend, there's something there. Every now and then we turn off our ads for a month or so and analyze traffic and sales to make sure those ads aren't capturing leads that would've come in organically. Advertising is work - you have to constantly investigate and experiment and optimize and refresh. Then do it all over again when that particular well runs dry.
Wouldn't it be naive to ignore context and imprudent to dismiss lessons available in this time? You can have compassion for someone AND attempt to help them learn from struggles and correct poor choices.
Your post equates "schooling" with "knowledge." If that's the context, then I'd take experience + attitude > knowledge every single day of the week. If "knowledge" includes schooling + work experience, then it depends. If you have a shit attitude you need to be very top tier in "knowledge" to make it worth the rest of us dealing with you. If you have a fantastic attitude you can get away with a lower level of "knowledge" as long as you show progress when trained.
Before thinking, things are as they are. After thinking, things are as I make them to be. Before thinking, something can be experienced. After thinking, it’s all a story.
That's what meditation will eventually unearth for you. Through meditation you'll experience and begin to gain an understanding of how your mind works and how that flavors the way you go through life on a moment to moment basis.
Reading as a reader is kinda different than reading as a writer. Different mind states. As a reader I'm getting lost in a story, not picking up on writing styles and patterns. You're not wrong. Just need the caveat of reading with the intention (or partial intention) to pull yourself out of the story and check out the architecture.