Thanks. There is a real problem in the marketplace right now. I really think its time for something different for the people who have talent and are stuck at jobs that don't make them happy.
I think we are in agreement here. My greatest strength as the "idea" guy comes from the fact that I was a developer at one point. I am technical enough to ground my ideas in reality.
The advice I did give to one person who asked me was to go get a job at a tech company. You don't have to code, but you have to know how technical products come together so that you can have an intelligent conversation with your future technical cofounder.
I think you are learning what a lot of developers end up learning. There is a big difference between having an idea and actually having the skill to do Product Management. I think you can determine relatively quickly in a meetup who actually has these skills by questioning them deeply about their idea. Have they actually thought about the implementation. Do they understand the limitations that technology may impose? What problems do they anticipate? etc.
As author of the Original Post I think you need a balance team where everybody brings something unique and important to the table. It's not enough to just come up with the "idea". You have to know how that idea will morph into other things. You have to know how you can extend that idea. You have to know how competition will force you to iterate. Etc.
I don't agree that you should become your own smart nerd. I shudder at anyone with no technical background picking up a programming book at just trying to learn to code. I'm not saying it isn't valuable to learn new things, but it would be a better use of time honing the things that make you unique and finding a person with the talents you lack to compliment yourself.