if a person doesn't work and isn't ok with dying from starvation, then he necessarily becomes dependent on other people. i think it's pretty reasonable to expect people to work for their necessities. "hard work" is another matter.
it's hard to say without knowing a lot more. who are you? how would you describe yourself? who are you trying to talk with? are they coworkers? are they people with similar backgrounds? how do you engage people? how sure are you people are interested in talking about what you want to talk about? how much do you care about other people? how much do you care about what other people have to say? do you think you're showing people you care (assuming you do)?