I can understand that. About 20 years ago I briefly dated a young lady that I got along with extremely well. The kind of relationship where we were comfortable enough with each other to casually discuss very personal matters.
The problem was that she had a boyfriend. One day she asked me if I would be her boyfriend if she broke up with the other guy. I told her not to do that because I would always have trust issues with her, knowing that she was a "cheater."
I know that it's easy to idealize what might have been, but to this day I still think about her and that rejecting her was probably the biggest mistake of my life. Shortly after we went our separate ways, I met my future and current wife of 18 years (it's been a difficult marriage, and probably won't last much longer... and should have ended over 10 years ago).
For various reasons, we never had any children, while my ex-"girlfriend" met someone else, and had two children that I know of. Even after all these years, I still think of my ex at least weekly, and imagine what might have been. I've casually tried to locate her over the years, hoping that she might be single again, but without luck.
Anyway, I know this isn't the proper forum for this, but it's something I've never told anyone about and your comment resonated rather strongly. Good luck with your situation!
The problem was that she had a boyfriend. One day she asked me if I would be her boyfriend if she broke up with the other guy. I told her not to do that because I would always have trust issues with her, knowing that she was a "cheater."
I know that it's easy to idealize what might have been, but to this day I still think about her and that rejecting her was probably the biggest mistake of my life. Shortly after we went our separate ways, I met my future and current wife of 18 years (it's been a difficult marriage, and probably won't last much longer... and should have ended over 10 years ago).
For various reasons, we never had any children, while my ex-"girlfriend" met someone else, and had two children that I know of. Even after all these years, I still think of my ex at least weekly, and imagine what might have been. I've casually tried to locate her over the years, hoping that she might be single again, but without luck.
Anyway, I know this isn't the proper forum for this, but it's something I've never told anyone about and your comment resonated rather strongly. Good luck with your situation!