That's a great question and I think many of us can relate. I can only speak from personal experience in dealing with similar life crises.
I looked at mid-life as a waking up. A realization that this is my life and it is finite.
I would suggest approaching this systematically and applying problem solving skills that we often use day-to-day in other areas. I think the decision tree is not all that complex, even if the emotional burdens and stress make it feel that way. Perhaps identifying and categorizing the issues, and then creating a plan, might help in moving to a better place.
- What issues are perceived problems that have internal solutions? Issues where the problem is ourselves... (Stress, anxiety, depression, perception, coping, etc.)
- What issues are external and we can effect change and address them (Marriage improvements like communication, couples counseling, making changes to our work environment)
- What issues are external but unsolvable and require radical changes (Divorce, Resignation from current job, Career change)
- What can I change and what do I have to learn to accept?
+1 on getting some objective professional counseling. This will help identify where the problems lie, and start a plan of action. It will also help to feel you have some support, that you aren't alone in dealing with these issues.
It might also help to look at changes incrementally rather than all or nothing. Today is better than yesterday...
And it might help to look at addressing issues iteratively. Making one thing better might change the way other issues impact us.
Yeah. I know. :) They sell them at the shaving shop I mentioned in the post. Scary. I don't think I'm at that stage yet. I think I'll stick with my safety razor for a while.
This is a personal account of my success with my Fitbit. I also try to explain how the Fitbit makes weight loss sustainable through rapid feedback and the idea that "frequency reduces difficulty". If you already have a Fitbit and want to make better use of it, this might be helpful to you.
I looked at mid-life as a waking up. A realization that this is my life and it is finite.
I would suggest approaching this systematically and applying problem solving skills that we often use day-to-day in other areas. I think the decision tree is not all that complex, even if the emotional burdens and stress make it feel that way. Perhaps identifying and categorizing the issues, and then creating a plan, might help in moving to a better place.
- What issues are perceived problems that have internal solutions? Issues where the problem is ourselves... (Stress, anxiety, depression, perception, coping, etc.)
- What issues are external and we can effect change and address them (Marriage improvements like communication, couples counseling, making changes to our work environment)
- What issues are external but unsolvable and require radical changes (Divorce, Resignation from current job, Career change)
- What can I change and what do I have to learn to accept?
+1 on getting some objective professional counseling. This will help identify where the problems lie, and start a plan of action. It will also help to feel you have some support, that you aren't alone in dealing with these issues.
It might also help to look at changes incrementally rather than all or nothing. Today is better than yesterday...
And it might help to look at addressing issues iteratively. Making one thing better might change the way other issues impact us.