It is curious where to draw the line between a faux pas, sexism, and misogyny.
Most men are not misogynists and don't purposely make sexist remarks. I agree with this:
"I don’t think that they intentionally set out to perpetuate the male gaze or to insult women or to discourage women from our industry. They just didn’t think about it."
Men sometimes forget what offends women: talking about blow jobs, appreciating a woman's curves in a tight white dress, passing along "brogrammer" memes (there was a post on HN how this excludes women and is therefore sexist), giving masculine names to coding projects like "Testosterone," hiring booth babes, etc.
Men need to remember the tech industry is not a "boy's club" (even if it feels like it with our nerf guns, foosball tables, and Beer Fridays) and change their thinking/behavior accordingly.
We don't need to go around educating everyone in feminist theory and second-wave feminism to fix this. Just say: Dude, that is probably offensive.
I too detected some sexual frustration in her writing. She feels "lonely" at work and "bored" by the men around her? All these smart young men and not a single one has brought excitement into her life?
This is like asking: Can You Learn To Play a Musical Instrument In One Day? and then sending someone who can't even read sheet music.
Suzuki said, "Knowledge is not skill. Knowledge plus ten thousand times is skill." In other words, you need to do a lot of coding (including debugging) to become proficient at it.
Most men are not misogynists and don't purposely make sexist remarks. I agree with this:
"I don’t think that they intentionally set out to perpetuate the male gaze or to insult women or to discourage women from our industry. They just didn’t think about it."
Men sometimes forget what offends women: talking about blow jobs, appreciating a woman's curves in a tight white dress, passing along "brogrammer" memes (there was a post on HN how this excludes women and is therefore sexist), giving masculine names to coding projects like "Testosterone," hiring booth babes, etc.
Men need to remember the tech industry is not a "boy's club" (even if it feels like it with our nerf guns, foosball tables, and Beer Fridays) and change their thinking/behavior accordingly.
We don't need to go around educating everyone in feminist theory and second-wave feminism to fix this. Just say: Dude, that is probably offensive.