I have a similar challenge, and I've found psychotherapy the most effective intervention. If you can afford it, I recommend looking for a therapist who offers both individual and group therapy. Finding a therapist is not the same as finding an excellent therapist, and everyone needs the latter. I recommend looking for recommendations from the local chapter of the American Group Psychotherapy Association.
If you cannot afford a therapist, pick up a copy of "Don't Bring It To Work" by Sylvia Lafair. The subtitle is "Breaking the Family Patterns That Limit Success". And see if there are some low-cost/sliding counseling centers in your area.
If you cannot afford a therapist, pick up a copy of "Don't Bring It To Work" by Sylvia Lafair. The subtitle is "Breaking the Family Patterns That Limit Success". And see if there are some low-cost/sliding counseling centers in your area.
You can change, and you deserve it.