I got a Xiaomi Notebook Pro, display is not excellent, but great value for the money.
16gb ram, decently new i7, Nvidia 960M, 256gb PCIE M.2 SSD, and an extra M.2 slot!
It was 1080€ shipped.
Seems to be a good option also for building an hackintosh.
I am using a vm for Xcode and such and it does the job.
Take a vacation with the kids, just a few days, then go alone with your wife.
Do no stop working as "work ennobles man", just figure out what you like first.
And yes, hire someone to figure out how to secure your money.
I, like many others, could use some money right now.
Why don't you give some money to the best pitch you receive?