Some workers are pretty interchangeable. If Sarah can assemble parts at the same rate as Sven, then the employer shouldn't care who does it, right? However, for specialized positions or ones that are knowledge-based, this doesn't work. Sarah is a lawyer who's been working on a case for the past 3 months, so it will take her much less time to complete the next step than Sven, who has been working on something else. So in that case, the employer would be pretty unhappy about Sarah wanting to work 30 hours a week, even if Sven is willing to pick up the extra 10.
Software developers with the same skills working on the same product are generally closer to the former than the latter, but it depends.
The other thing is that there are many fixed costs associated with hiring an employee. They need a desk and office space and computer, they need health insurance/unemployment, you need HR to manage all of this. So it ends up being much more expensive (and complicated) to have two part time employees than one fulltime one. If most benefits were decoupled from employment, a lot (but not all) of these costs go away.
Using 'girl' to mean 'someone to whom I am attracted' is a poor choice of words. For one, I assume they are adult women, not girls, that attract you. For another, it alienates a number of your readers who aren't attracted to women. I know you're speaking about your personal habits, but there is no loss of understanding if you generalize it and it comes off better as advice or a template for behaviors. For a third, the way it's written here it kind of implies that the purpose of talking to any girl (since you're choosing one at random) is to chat her up. I don't know if that's the statement you're going for- you could easily have meant "Try to meet people with a different life experience than you and become friends with them." It's just a good idea to be precise about what you mean.
Because you're still working, you get 8-9 hours a day off from being responsible for the immediate care of the baby. Your wife probably feels like she gets zero hours off. Is she eager to get back to work or just to get out of the house and get a few hours off? Could you work from home a few days a week or drop down to 30 hours a week so she could have some time to feel like a professional more than a mom? You're both really stressed and your lives have changed a lot, but hers has changed more than yours, at least for now. Can you leave the baby with her grandparents and go away for a weekend?
I agree that a bit of formula is going to be fine for the baby. The more important thing is a happy, loving set of parents who aren't resentful of the awesome thing they made. If the crying and not sleeping doesn't stop soon, it could be attributable to an allergy or food sensitivity. Your wife can either go on a super bland and shitty elimination diet, or you could talk to your doctor and see if formula exists for super allergic kids and just try him on that for a few weeks and see if it gets better. Food allergies are really common nowadays, and it's an easy thing to fix.
The young boys have sometimes been worse than the old ones. When I talk to CTOs in their 30s, I feel like they take me more seriously and much less suspiciously than the 24 year olds.
Maybe it's complicated by the fact that many people transition after the point where they already have ideas or plans for their future careers. One woman I talked to actually transitioned in between getting a job offer at a major tech company and starting the job.
For the record, she said that everyone was really open and comfortable with it, and one of the first things her boss did was make sure that all her IDs and employee records were updated to reflect her actual gender identity, which was awesome.
I think scared is appropriate, inasmuch as it's a synonym for afraid. People want to choose a career they feel they can succeed in, and many women feel afraid that they can't succeed in tech, for a lot of reasons. Men feel it too, but being a minority in a field complicates things and probably makes it more likely for women to drop out or not choose tech as a career path in the first place.
There are people who identify as genderqueer, who don't fit into any gender identity, and people who identify as a gender, who don't have a gender identity.
I've been to a conference for undergraduate GSMs in tech, and while I don't have any statistics, it felt like there were almost as many transwomen/genderqueer presenting as female as there were women (and still many more men and transmen). I think it's super awesome that tech is as welcoming to trans people as it is and has been from other people's stories that I've heard. I'm just worried that it isn't as sensitive to bi-cis-women as trans folks and gays or lesbians.
Depression is work. If you haven't done the things your doctor has told you to do, and at least given them an honest effort, that should really be your first step.
I agree. This has just been blown so catastrophically out of proportion, and for no good reason. Neither Adria nor the developers did anything worth getting fired over.
Tweeting a picture isn't a DEFCON 4 response. I don't really think that it's that problematic- they were breaking the rules of the conference that they had agreed to, and calling someone out publicly is a very common method of enforcing social norms. It's not necessarily the most nuanced or feel-good method, but it's not like they had an expectation of privacy while in a crowded convention room. The overreaction here came from the guy's company, and we really don't know the whole story there.
I think I would talk to them about what the work is like behind the scenes. Coding is a lot like coming up with a recipe. You have to think really hard about what goes into a cake and when, or else when someone tries to follow the recipe the cake will burn or will taste wrong.
But computers can't think, so you have to be really specific. If you need flour for your recipe, you have to tell it where to get the flour, how to open it up, and how to measure it. You need to tell it how to mix everything together and bake it so you can eat it in the end. But the best part is, even though coming up with a recipe for vanilla cake is really hard the first time, once you have that, it's easy to come up with chocolate cake, or a really big cake for a birthday party or cupcakes you can put in your lunchbox. So you have to learn a lot about cakes upfront, but then you can make all kinds of different cakes- cakes that say 'Happy Birthday' or 'Thank You' are pretty similar to make once you know about cakes in general.
You should either change the way you get random clouds or increase your database. I got a bunch of repeats in very few clicks. If you do it the way that iTunes comes up with a shuffle list, for instance, by creating a randomly seeded list when someone opens the site, you'd prevent the repeats.
You should either change the way you get random clouds or increase your database. I got a bunch of repeats in very few clicks. If you do it the way that iTunes comes up with a shuffle list, for instance, by creating a randomly seeded list when someone opens the site, you'd prevent the repeats.
It doesn't make anybody feel singled out though. People affected by suicide and depression are much less visible of a population, and I think they'd be a lot less likely to have negative experiences at the conference as a direct consequence of the talk. If anything, that's a topic that doesn't get enough exposure. Sex does.
Software developers with the same skills working on the same product are generally closer to the former than the latter, but it depends.
The other thing is that there are many fixed costs associated with hiring an employee. They need a desk and office space and computer, they need health insurance/unemployment, you need HR to manage all of this. So it ends up being much more expensive (and complicated) to have two part time employees than one fulltime one. If most benefits were decoupled from employment, a lot (but not all) of these costs go away.