How are you going to discuss all that in a substantive manner? All anyone can do in the limited time frame of a HN discussion is draw parallels to previous job experiences or previous user experiences.
My own experiences are more aligned with the sentiment expressed in the "dismissal" comment.
http://yosefk.com/blog/people-can-read-their-managers-mind.h...
Probably better than "Thanks for the Feedback" by Sheila Heen.