Things My Male Tech Colleagues Have Actually Said to Me, Annotated(the-toast.net)
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Things My Male Tech Colleagues Have Actually Said to Me, Annotated
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I don't get how people read these things and want to poke holes and attack the weakest points in argument. If someone feels uncomfortable at work how about we listen? There's certainly not much/any evidence that women are treated well in tech and yet there's a rush to defend against any criticism of the men in tech.
This article would be much more palatable if it was non gender-ed. Everyone has had crazy/uncomfortable stuff said to them at work. This is a universal experience but this article make it seem like it is only women. This implies a men vs women dynamic. This immediately lumps all men into the offenders and all women as victims. This is not the case.
How about a different conversation? Along the line of what crazy shit have you heard at work? That way everyone could share what they don't like without lumping people into groups.
How about a different conversation? Along the line of what crazy shit have you heard at work? That way everyone could share what they don't like without lumping people into groups.
"Most girls aren’t into this kind of stuff." - Easily can be said about guys. In fact, most guys aren't into many stereotypical nerd pursuits.
"How did you learn to do all this?!" - Said to me all the time, and I'm a guy.
"Let me know when you want to do that so I can help you. No offense, but you just don’t know enough about it to try it on your own." - Said to me, and I'm a guy.
"See, that’s the great thing about you, I know I can tell ‘offensive’ jokes around you and you won’t care." - Coworkers say things that make me uncomfortable as well, and I'm a guy (I get squicked out when people start comparing how physically attractive people are, male or female, for example).