Find The Yellers(delian.io)

26 pointsby MIT_Hackervor 13 Jahren5 comments

http://delian.io/find-the-yellers

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I find it very hard to tell some of my brilliant friends that it appears that they are in this case talking our of their fundaments, or at least being somewhat nuts. I used to be more critical, but then people would not want to talk to me. So I learned to be constructive and positive. Which is a great thing and I thank California culture for that. However, I can't find a good way to be an ass to my friends for their own good. (assuing I'm not talking out of mine, of course)

Any tips anyone?

MIT_Hackervor 13 Jahren

I've found the best way to go about this is to ask the hard questions.

How to Win Friends and Influence people has a great chapter on how to give constructive critical feedback. You can't just outright say what you are thinking because you need them to believe it as well. By asking leading questions and explaining your thought process, you can make them see the critical feedback you are trying to give.

triplesecvor 13 Jahren

Ah, socratic method. I do sometimes try that, although sometimes there are people who don't even respond.. which means perhaps I'm expecting too much change too quickly with their character :) it may also be that I need more confidence. Or that sometimes I need to drill down to what they really don't know. I have other friends who ask me questions I'm well aware of, so I discount their questioning. But soetimes if I listen they have a new perspective. So the ability of your friend to be open matters 8)

I'll have a dig around for my copy of Carnegie's classic. this sounds like a good tip!

toki5vor 13 Jahren

My work has a Trend Micro proxy, which is blocking this website as a "verified fraudulent page or threat source." Maybe an ad on it or something?

MIT_Hackervor 13 Jahren

Hosted by svbtle.com, so not sure why! Will send them an email