Appreciate these comments! My wife and I just started researching Montessori schools in our area (socal). Didn’t know about the AMS, will absolutely check that. And now we know we need a rubric to measure from Montessori to Monte-sort-of :)
> The problem is that I cope with pain and hurdles differently. When people stop to rest I usually push some more. When they seek a shelter from the rain I want to ride more. When they need to chat with someone I need to read a book. I am a hyperactive introvert with a strange set of interests. I am a little different and because of that it's much harder for me to make friends.
Shared suffering & growth is how you form the strongest bonds.
If you're biking w/ people and they stop to rest (or b/c of rain). Time to make a choice. You can keep going, or stop with them.
If you keep going, you'll grow, your legs will get stronger.
If you stop, they'll grow, their legs will get stronger. But you have to keep stopping to see it happen. In time they'll stop less often. You'll love watching them get stronger, and they'll love that you were there to witness their growth. You're sharing in their suffering, even if you're not winded or uncomfortable yourself.
Fast forward to the future, now you're struggling with something physically or emotionally, and one of them may stop to be by your side. They could've pushed past you but they want to be there for you. You were there for them.
We're social creatures. When we work cooperatively with others we gain an enriched sense of accomplishment, even when know we could have done the work ourselves.
I have no background in any field that could help me understand the basics of this discussion. However your post makes me wonder if many internet discussions are victim to this same phenomenon.
Different levels of abstraction are presented to explain "why", they're understood differently by different people (due to varying expertise), which causes discussions to eventually spiral into what appears to be disagreement, but is actually different layers of detail. The layers may seem to be contradictory but are often related. Hence the term "arguing in circles".
> Maybe my job this weekend will be to write my own version of these documents but with a decent selection of programs, descriptions and example usages?
Maybe your job this weekend should be to get a little exercise before writing on the internet?
It's a nice little summary of cool tools. "Some are little-known, some are just too useful to miss, some are pure obscure".
> With Durr you become aware of how your brain alters the length of a bus ride, how fast you finish a beer, how time flies by when you enjoy yourself, and drags along when you wait in line at the post office.
Let me propose the 20% case that'll feel like the 80% case. Having a beer with a friend and sharing laughter, and ...buzz.buzz.buzz... being reminded mid-laugh that you're having a beer with a friend sharing a laugh.
I enjoy the moments where my brain adjusts the volume of the world around me, I get lost in thought and time becomes my bitch.
> People getting upset by mere words (not even uttered against them) are hardly worth a hackers time.
Rape is a trigger word unlike most other words.
I for one don't sensor myself around my friends, I tend to cross the line, all the time. My friends see me in context smiling or laughing, I know most of their life stories. It's safe to push the limits of hyperbole.
Here we have little/no context. Someone sees the word and they think of something horrible, the place, the person, the smells. All the things that are blocked out on and every day basis.
So why not avoid the word? Just to be kind to a stranger.