We might have only given it a name 200 years ago. It was the default state for all of human history, and still is in the animal kingdom.
A population of people of shared blood and history sharing a homeland in pursuit of common values and ambitions, violently defending it from foreigners whenever necessary.
Not a soulless economic zone where foreigners are treated like royalty by traitors and treasonous authorities.
He is his parents' child. As they are the children of their parents, and they are of theirs.
There is no sperm or egg that could have had him born as a Japanese man in outback Australia. He is the culmination of generations of ancestors' accomplishments, as is the civilisation they have built for themselves and their descendants.
>I don’t feel pride in being Canadian because pride, to me, is reserved for accomplishments
>I had no part in being born in Canada, nor shaping this lovely country ... a country filled with opportunity and beauty, where hard work is rewarded, and life is governed fairly and predictably
>I am proud of my ancestors ... who crossed oceans, who spoke no English, and settled in the rugged, frozen prairies of Saskatchewan.
Does he think the modern Western democratic country we now know as "Canada" was always there and his fortunate ancestors stumbled upon it? Does he not consider carving this beautiful and just land of opportunity from a frozen wasteland an accomplishment of his ancestors?
How can you not feel pride in that? Does he not consider himself - a strong, healthy, intelligent, thoughtful man - an accomplishment of his ancestors; the result of millions of years of toil and struggle and selection?
Does he think it's random chance that he was not born in a hut in Tanzania?
How can one express pride in his ancestors and their achievements in the most abstract sense, while being very sure to completely reject any pride in himself and what they built? Indeed, what else is there? If you asked them, I'm sure they would say that their family and home are their greatest accomplishments - things that he explicitly excludes from eligibility for any sense of pride whatsoever.
It's not as if these men have willing marriageable women queueing up at their door.
They have not chosen to forego marriage and family in pursuit of these pointless nihilistic hedonistic hobbies. They seek comfort in them because marriage and family are unattainable.
A very common sentiment among young men is that "the juice ain't worth the squeeze".
There is a sense that the average man is being expected to meet increasingly demanding requirements - career, social, fitness, etc (some of which are literally impossible for many due to height, balding, or facial attractiveness) - for a shot at an overweight woman past her prime with dozens of flings and a couple abortions in her past, who will forever secretly think poorly of him, is only ever 5 minutes away from another fling with a random stranger on the app of her choice, and may at any moment become 'bored' and file for no-fault divorce ruining their family and finances.
Or we can do whatever we like for leisure, meet our sexual needs in whatever way we like (abstinence, prostitutes, casual sex, toys, porn, etc) and watch the world burn.