How I learned to motivate a stubborn programmer(dearcharlottebook.com)
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How I learned to motivate a stubborn programmer
http://dearcharlottebook.com/2011/12/how-i-learned-to-motivate-others.html
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Team from hell? By the sounds of it they had a clash of egos. I probably wouldn't want to work with Paul or Phil.
How many people realise they have been manipulated after reading material like this? It's the same feeling I had after reading 'How to make friends and influence people'.
This is why programmers don't make the big bucks.
This is why programmers don't make the big bucks.
You're saying that suggestions like "Give honest and sincere appreciation", "Be a good listener", "Become genuinely interested in other people", "Show respect for the other person's opinions", and "Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view" are manipulative?
If I was Paul and read this, I would never talk to you again.
Having dealt with programming teams in my teenage years, yeah, ego is always an entertaining problem.
That said, you come off as a needy manipulative little shithead.
If this was such a big deal to you, and you cared so much about self-improvement, why didn't you learn the skills yourself instead of manipulating Paul into doing stuff for you?
That said, you come off as a needy manipulative little shithead.
If this was such a big deal to you, and you cared so much about self-improvement, why didn't you learn the skills yourself instead of manipulating Paul into doing stuff for you?
When reading his post I was reminded of stories of startups where founders are contributing different amounts of effort. It's not always easy to divorce your cofounders, but if you can find a way to encourage your cofounder to reach his full potential, I see it as a win-win for all involved.
> why didn't you learn the skills yourself instead of manipulating Paul into doing stuff for you?
Perhaps the reasoning goes, ``manipulating others buys you any skill you need any time you need. makes a better investment than the programming skill alone''.
Perhaps the reasoning goes, ``manipulating others buys you any skill you need any time you need. makes a better investment than the programming skill alone''.
"That said, you come off as a needy manipulative little shithead."
He was supposed to be 14 at the time, no? It could be an honest appraisal of amateur Macchiaveli-ism, no?
He was supposed to be 14 at the time, no? It could be an honest appraisal of amateur Macchiaveli-ism, no?
It is supposed to be an honest self-appraisal. The letters dated at later ages bear out the full arc of my development on this topic.
If you approach it as though the task is easy, the mind searches for difficulties and reasons why it might not be possible instead.